<p><span>In this article we will learn the following</span><br></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">26 types of destructive emotions-behaviors-feelings patterns - you may have if you struggle with inner-conflicts and turmoil</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-14 types of inner-conflict you may have - add yours - the following is given as indicators</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">40+ tips on How to Manage Your Inner-Conflicts and Emotional-Turmoil - </b>most of the single-word or line solutions given in this article - HAVE separate do-it-yourself blogs in our both the websites and videos on our YouTube channel</p><p> </p><p>How to deal your emotional turmoil & inner conflict </p><p></p><p>Many of us avoid conflict - <b data-redactor-tag="b">to maintain a feeling of peace [which is superficial and temporary] - but we manage to create a long-term - self-sabotaging & self-destructive war inside ourselves.</b></p><p>This may reach <b data-redactor-tag="b">a stage when it cannot be ignored and will create permanent trauma and pain within us - and may become our biggest impediment</b> - in our growth-peace-success-happiness-relationship-health-wealth-bliss etc.</p><p>Rarely do <b data-redactor-tag="b">we choose to see the existence of conflict as positive </b>and as an opportunity to move forward and make things better.</p><p>Most people dread conflict– <b data-redactor-tag="b">they relate with conflict as being uncomfortable, stressful, and scary-thing.</b></p><p>As a result - <b data-redactor-tag="b">we learn to avoid, suppress or withdraw from conflict or even act as if - it doesn't exist.</b> </p><p>This world that we live-in - <b data-redactor-tag="b">is rarely the source of our peace but is a constant source of constant disruptions and disturbances - when we let it to be</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Turmoil seeks reasons to justify itself - and at times - we even invent these justifications.</b></p><p>To manage <b data-redactor-tag="b">turmoil from external sources - we need to learn how to relate to people-circumstances and situations - better</b> and in more-effective manner.</p><p>When <b data-redactor-tag="b">you are being pulled in multiple-directions</b> [because of equally damning inner-conflict is with equally damning consequences] - <b data-redactor-tag="b">it is very-very distressing-challenging-confusing - besides being totally counter-productive.</b></p><p>The conflict between our hearts and head is real - and - <b data-redactor-tag="b">when we are unable to find a balance between what we want [our heart] and what we really need [our head]</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">it creates a perfect recipe for confusions-conflicts-turmoil.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The more attached we are with people, things and outcomes - the more inner-conflicts and inner turmoil we will experience.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Because we can only be at peace - when our values are aligned with our actions.</b></p><p>When <b data-redactor-tag="b">our life doesn't work out the way we were hoping-for - we are filled with various negative symptoms like </b>- anger, frustration, indecisiveness, fear, confusion, annoyance, etc.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">There is no simple formula for resolving inner conflict. </b></p><p>A simple analogy [if you look at this theoretically] - <b data-redactor-tag="b">the silver medalist should be more-happy than the bronze-medalist.</b></p><p>But <b data-redactor-tag="b">because the human brain doesn't work like mathematics - you will find that the bronze medalist is generally more-happy than a silver medalist</b>.</p><p>Because the Silver medal is won only after losing to the Gold-winner [and it causes disappointment] - <b data-redactor-tag="b">whereas the Bronze medal can be only won after defeating the opponent.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">26 types of destructive emotions-behaviors-feelings patterns - you may have if you struggle with inner-conflicts and turmoil </b>- on regular basis</p> <ul><li>1.Indecision</li> <li>2.Overthinking</li> <li>3.Anxiety</li> <li>4.Building up of stress-levels</li> <li>5.Unable to let go of mistakes-hurts-regrets-shames-guilt </li> <li>6.Unable to see other options </li> <li>7.Magnifying small incidents into huge</li> <li>8.Creating external conflicts in our relationships</li> <li>9.Makes us unable to take action at the right time</li> <li>10. Losing opportunities</li> <li>11. Unable to correct the mistakes</li> <li>12. Covering-up for the slipups you made</li> <li>13. Stagnating in your growth</li> <li>14. Unable to share your fears-concerns-anxieties</li> <li>15. Get easily influenced by the opinions of others</li> <li>16. Feel insecure and unstable </li> <li>17. Would feel the need of support due to lack of conviction in yourself</li> <li>18. Experience sudden changes in mood </li> <li>19. Feel uncertain and unsure about your goals, desires and plans</li> <li>20. Go for short-term fixing rather than long term-corrections</li> <li>21. Will focus more on having fun and entertainment to avoid difficult yet important-task</li> <li>22. Will find it difficult to make up your own mind</li> <li>23. Give more importance and value to the opinions of others than your own</li> <li>24. You may find yourself willing to bend backward for others</li> <li>25. Will have doubt on your abilities and strengths</li> <li>26. Will be scared to enforce healthy personal-boundaries</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">14 types of inner-conflict you may have - add yours - the following is given as indicators</b></p> <ul><li>1.To start working to maintain finances better or to continue studies for greater long-term prospects</li> <li>2.Go for show-off to create false impressions or let people think whatever they feel to hell with it</li> <li>3.To enjoy now or to postpone having-fun for larger goals </li> <li>4.To leave job for stating your own or to keep-working</li> <li>5.How to let go or get out of a toxic relationship OR to live with it</li> <li>6.To get married or to stay single [even though feeling lonely]</li> <li>7.To study further or to take up job and study later</li> <li>8.To marry young or when we have accumulated wealth</li> <li>9.How do you say NO</li> <li>10. How do you ask for favor</li> <li>11. Should you do this or that</li> <li>12. What would others think if you do this</li> <li>13. Will you be ashamed of doing this </li> <li>14. How can I be assertive - with a powerful and authoritative person</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">40+ tips on How to Manage Your Inner-Conflicts and Emotional-Turmoil - </b>most of the single-word or line solutions given in this article - HAVE separate do-it-yourself blogs in our both the websites and videos on our YouTube channel </p> <ul><li>1.Become aware of all the different internal-conflicts you are having</li> <li>2.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Make a list of all of these turmoil you are currently experiencing</b> - You may be in conflict about a major life issue or significant lifestyle change - for example </li> <li>I.It could be about making decision - for quitting or continuing with your current job</li> <li>II.Getting out of a current-relationship or to work on making that relationship work</li> <li>III.Creating and enforcing personal-boundaries with a person in your life who take advantage of you and makes you feel bad about yourself</li> <li>3.Write-down for your own-clarifications - on how these internal-conflicts - are playing havoc - by preventing you live a fulfilling life</li> <li>4.Acknowledge these Inner-conflict</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">5.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Gain Clarity - why you are having these conflicts by asking yourself</b></li> <li>I.Are you not clear about your values</li> <li>II.Are you doing something [or forced to do something] - which is not aligned with your values</li> <li>III.Are you not clear about your priorities</li> <li>IV.Are you not clear about what is the right-direction and way to move-forward</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">6.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Ask yourself Are you feeling insecure because </b></li> <li>I.You lack skills</li> <li>II.You lack exposure</li> <li>III.You lack experience</li> <li>IV.You lack knowledge</li> <li>V.Because you tried - but failed in the past</li> <li>VI.You are scared to venture into uncertain and unknown</li> <li>VII.You feel comfortable in your comfort-zone </li> <li>VIII.You don't want to take risk - because of losing something</li> <li>7.Make a List of Things You Like About Yourself</li> <li>8.Share what you are feeling with someone trusted - e.g. - right now I'm feeling like sh*t and don't know what to do to get out of this</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">9.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify what do you really want </b></li> <li>I.Identify your core values - which are non-negotiable</li> <li>II.Identify your current priorities - on what you must do right now AND important to do</li> <li>III.Identify your larger than life dreams - which makes you thrilled</li> <li>IV.Work backwards to create a schedule from the end goals to daily-weekly-monthly-yearly milestones</li> <li>V.Create your own expectations - be aware of your needs, wants, and desires</li> <li>VI.Create your own choices - ask yourself that in the long-term - what would be the wisest choice - sleep-over these and then choose</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">VII.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Identify your own solutions</b></li> <li>10. <b data-redactor-tag="b">Stop being influenced by others</b> - you may get advice from well-meaning people yet they might be in agreement with either your thoughts or your emotions - everyone will have their perspectives but they may not have solutions that will work for you </li> <li>11. Understand that many of your inner-struggle happens when you are giving more than you are receiving.</li> <li>12. To reduce your suffering see the disturbing thoughts - as temporary fluctuations of energy within the brain</li> <li>13. Practice to distinguish between intuition and fear </li> <li>14. Identify and challenge your beliefs - which are creating confusion</li> <li>15. Identify your fears and all that which makes you scared-anxious-fearful</li> <li>16. Ask yourself - should you live with your fear - or deal with it by facing-acknowledging-learning and taking actions</li> <li>17. Relax and calm your mind - try exercises, swimming, meditation, listening to soothing music - because often the best answers and solutions come when we aren't looking for them but are relaxed and having fun</li> <li>18. Most of us try to resolve known inner conflict by trying to find solutions where both needs can be met without having to neglect either of them - in very-less occasions this is possible - by identifying a work-around or a compromise</li> <li>19. <b data-redactor-tag="b">When you are sufficiently aware of the full inner conflict and are able to understand yourself - start by repeating the following</b> [example - you have to create your own as per what you need] - then start applying them in smaller-less threatening situations and people</li> <li>I.I want to live my life - by working on the goals which makes me feel come alive</li> <li>II.Some people in my life - have added meaningful positive values - I must cherish and nurture these relationships</li> <li>III.I have to get rid of these Toxic people - who only make me miserable</li> <li>IV.My self-care is most important for me and my loved-ones</li> <li>V.I can take care of these I love and care for only when my wellbeing is taken-care of</li> <li>VI.I am adequate enough - I don't need validations and approval from others for working on y life-goals</li> <li>VII.I respect others and be respected by others</li> <li>VIII.I will have to say no to short-term in favor of long-term benefits</li> <li>IX.I need to learn ways to handle my stress-fears-anxieties better</li> <li>X.I also need to learn how to work on finding and applying solutions</li> <li>XI.I need to learn how to deal with difficult and arrogant people</li></ul><div><br></div><p>#typesofinnerconflictsthatyoumayhave, #whatcausesturmoil, #whywehaveinnerconflicts, #howtomanageyourinnerconflictsandturmoil, #destructiveemotionsbehaviorsfeelingpatterns, #howtodealwithyouremotionalconflictsandturmoil, #managingyouremotionalconflicts</p>