<p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-45 causes of self-inflicted stress why do we worry so much </b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-42 tips on how to stop worrying unnecessarily and causing self-inflicted stress - create optimum self-control</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-30+ Signs to help you identify your stress</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">This saying is profoundly true</b> - that if the problem can be solved why worry - <b data-redactor-tag="b">and if the problem cannot be solved how can worrying help you feel better</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Although most of us might know this subconsciously</b> - many of us are still <b data-redactor-tag="b">unable to stop overthinking - and worry, put ourselves under pressure, create tension and stress ourselves</b> - unnecessarily.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Contrary to popular belief - nobody performs better under negative-pressure</b> - unnecessary pressure impacts our judgment, our decision-making, our focus and our performance in every area of life.</p><p>Many of us use the word stress and pressure interchangeably - <b data-redactor-tag="b">inability to differentiate stress from pressure can be very harmful.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Pressure can be a temporary state due to a present-cause - whereas stress is what happens if you live in a pressure-cooker life for long.</b></p><p>Stress can be broadly put in two categories - <b data-redactor-tag="b">life-induced and self-induced</b>. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Life-induced stress is caused by events which might</b> not be in your area of control and might not have been triggered by you.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Self-induced stress usually happens through wrong habits of mind and your emotional immaturity</b> - as self-inflicted stress gets created by poor management of your expectations, your time, your relationships and due to your mindset.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You might have experienced - that even holidays which are supposed to be relaxing and stress-buster</b> - can create serious stress and pressure.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Everyone experiences stress to some degree - in almost every day basis</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The way you respond to stress - decides your quality of well-being</b> - you have a choice either you can change the situation or change <b data-redactor-tag="b">the way you respond to disruptive changes that life throws at you.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Stress can also be positive</b> - when it fills you with positive energy of expectations, motivated, keeps you alert and ready to avoid danger. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">But when you are under stress for a prolonged period of time - continued activation of the stress response in your body</b> - create detrimental physical, emotional and behavioral symptoms</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Your body's built-in instant stress response -of fight, freeze or flight</b> - helps you face stressful situations - at the time they occur - later it is your coping mechanism which has to be strengthened </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Many people with chronic stress - resort to unhealthy behaviors and habits</b> -like alcohol, drugs, gambling, overeating, compulsive shopping, uncontrolled sex, smoking, and addiction to internet/social-media/mobile.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Worry is that feeling of uneasiness that occurs when your thoughts are focused on current difficulties in your life or potential problems</b> that have not actually occurred - worry is just one aspect of anxiety.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">While some stressors are out of our control, others are avoidable -and self-inflicted</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">30+ Signs to help you identify your stress</b></p> <ul><li>1.Physical symptoms of stress include - unexplained aches and pains, irregular heartbeat, suffocation or difficulty breathing, exhaustion, fatigue, sleep-disorder, sexual-dysfunction, digestive issues, weak immune system, anger, losing self-control, dizziness, high blood pressure, changes in weight, frequent colds or infections, and changes in the menstrual cycle</li> <li>2.Mental symptoms like - anxiety, irritability, sadness, melancholy, depression, sadness, mood swings, decreased libido, angry, irritated, </li> <li>3.Psychological signs such as difficulty concentrating, worrying, anxiety, and trouble remembering moody, or frustrated</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">45 causes of self-inflicted stress why do we worry so much </b></p><p>By understanding why we worry so much, we can find ways to cope with and minimize unhelpful thoughts - as worrying too much can prevent us from living a happy and healthy life. </p> <ul><li>1.Your natural in-built danger-sensor takes perceives situations as real and sounds alarm</li> <li>2.You focusing only on what is wrong and not asking what you can do to minimize your sufferings</li> <li>3.You are trying to figure out how to solve the challenge that you are facing</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">4.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Your 10 fears</b></li> <li>I.Your fear of losing control</li> <li>II.Your fear of appearing weak</li> <li>III.Your fear of what others would think about you</li> <li>IV.Your fear of becoming a laughing stock</li> <li>V.Your fear of being judged by others</li> <li>VI.Your fear of your perceived inability of handling a future event</li> <li>VII.Your having lot of responsibility at work or at home</li> <li>VIII.Your fear of meeting accident for yourself or your loved ones</li> <li>IX.You fear of falling sick</li> <li>X.Your fear of unable to pay your debt</li> <li>5.In life you are going through a bad phase of uncertainty and chaos</li> <li>6.Giving too much damn about trivia</li> <li>7.Your caring too much for mundane</li> <li>8.Your habit of overthinking - your own thinking actively plays a role in creating your stress</li> <li>9.Your risk-appetite as well as your risk-appetite - many of you are programed take risks - few of naturally to be cautious and risk-averse</li> <li>10.Your being a perfectionist</li> <li>11.Your blaming other people or luck or any external factor - as the source of your negative feelings or situation - but by blaming someone else or some external situation, you fail to take any responsibility for your role in contributing to a possible negative outcome - as even if someone or something else is at fault - your focus has to be on what you could do to change or fix the situation </li> <li>12.Your living in regret - which makes you focus on what all you could have done in the past</li> <li>13.Your inability to correct your perceptions - even with new information you have which negates your beliefs completely</li> <li>14.Your rejecting truth - by justifying your beliefs</li> <li>15.Your feeling great in playing victim</li> <li>16.Your discounting or downplaying the positives in your life</li> <li>17.Your magnifying the non-significant</li> <li>18.Your saying yes to the demand of others - even if you are unable to complete your own high priority tasks</li> <li>19.Your not planning thoroughly for important and critical event</li> <li>20.Your not exploring all options, all solutions and all possibilities - which can solve your problem more effectively </li> <li>21.Your being disorganization and living with mental, physical and emotional clutter</li> <li>22.Your living your life wallowing in guilt of what mistakes you made in past</li> <li>23.Your not having enough money and your sinking in debts and struggling to make ends meet</li> <li>24.Your going through multiple illnesses yourself or of your loved ones</li> <li>25.Your not spending enough time with your loved ones</li> <li>26.Your not taking breaks and vacations and relaxing</li> <li>27.Your work being full of pressure and culture is of exploitation </li> <li>28.Your being uncertain about your children's education and their future prospects</li> <li>29.Your living with toxic people</li> <li>30.Your poor skills in handing difficult people</li> <li>31.Your worrying about your image in the eyes of others as per your imagination</li> <li>32.Your need to be liked and accepted by others</li> <li>33.Your seeking validation from others</li> <li>34.Your not having friends with whom you can share</li> <li>35.10 point checklist assess if you are anxiety prone</li> <li>36.Do you experience stomach issues or other physical anxiety symptoms - regularly</li> <li>37.Does anxiety affect your activities and day to day living</li> <li>38.Do you lose sleep worrying about anything</li> <li>39.Do you get into road-rage in a slow-moving traffic</li> <li>40.Do you continuously fear about any major crisis that's beyond your control?</li> <li>41.Thinking about future does it make you worry unnecessarily </li> <li>42.Do you worry about accidents and your flight crashing</li> <li>43.Are you concerned about what others think of you - does it make you tense</li> <li>44.Do you worry about your death</li> <li>45.Do you worry about those things that are beyond your control - and in the process unable to do what is within your control</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">42 tips on how to stop worrying unnecessarily and causing self-inflicted stress - create optimum self-control</b></p> <ul><li>1.Whenever you are flooded by what-ifs of future - note down the worst case scenarios and then create plans on how you will deal with these - should they happen - chances are they won't</li> <li>2.Whenever you notice yourself falling into a whirlpool of vicious cycle - note down all what you are worrying about - then ask how best you can manage these and what all you can do to mitigate the situation</li> <li>3.If you are continuously playing in your mind about your past mistakes and past embarrassments - learn to ask yourself what did you learn from those events and how can you use them</li> <li>4.Get into the practice of saying so-what - in case you are worrying about how foolish you made yourself look - don't personalize or exaggerate the meaning of these moments</li> <li>5.Benchmark your expectations with reality and reduce them to match your capabilities and strengths</li> <li>6.Make it your habit of asking yourself everyday many-many time - what can i do today to lessen my stress - then take action</li> <li>7.Learn to utilize the energy of negativities by creating and working on something meaningful</li> <li>8.Let go of your urge to control everyone and every situation</li> <li>9.Allow yourself to fail and feel pain of rejections - and then comeback and start working on your future dreams</li> <li>10.Get organized and remove clutter from your mind, your laptop, your work-desk and your wardrobe</li> <li>11.Get toxic people out of your life</li> <li>12.Learn how to manage difficult, arrogant, dominating and toxic people</li> <li>13.Choose people who inspire and motivate you and make you feel great in your company</li> <li>14.Identify your strengths and work on to use them</li> <li>15.Take break, relax, rejuvenate and energize yourself</li></ul> <ul><li>16.Go for physical as well as relaxing exercises</li> <li>17.Identify the cause of your stress — write down what is contributing to you feeling overwhelmed and stressed. - you may identify one particular issue or have a range of things contributing to how you feel at this time. </li> <li>18.Prioritize the issues </li> <li>19.Review your current coping mechanisms — identify what tools and strategies have you found helpful and what things are not effective</li> <li>20.Share and talk to a trusted friend or family member</li> <li>21.Make a positive plan — work out ways to deal with the situation or how to approach it step by step - then take action by implementing these</li> <li>22.Take care of yourself — we need eat well, exercise and get adequate sleep </li> <li>23.Understand that you cannot control all the external forces - but you can learn to manage how you deal with pressures of life </li> <li>24.Give yourself one more chance - when you fail</li> <li>25.Enjoy the fun of journey</li> <li>26.Be vulnerable - it does not make you look bad - on the contrary it may motivate few others</li> <li>27.Practice, practice, practice and rehearse both to perform and to manage pressure</li> <li>28.Improvise and keep upgrading and updating your methods, your processes and your plans</li> <li>29.Stop worrying about what you can't control - avoid anticipating.</li> <li>30.Allow yourself to feel the negative emotions fully - then feel better by telling yourself that you will take action to bounce back</li> <li>31.Accept your weaknesses - and everyone else's</li> <li>32.Don't pay too much attention to your thought of or worry about what others might think </li> <li>33.Stop performing to get others' validation and approval</li> <li>34.Forget about perfectionism - instead focus on excellence by continuous improvement</li> <li>35.Start focusing on the action and process - not on the outcome.</li> <li>36.Be ok with mistakes and failure</li> <li>37.Take action just do it - to avoid getting stuck in procrastination</li> <li>38.Prioritize and focus your 80% time on the issues of biggest importance - stop trying to look busy by doing unimportant stuff</li> <li>39.Don't take things too seriously</li> <li>40.Stop taking things personally</li> <li>41.Learn to solve problems better</li> <li>42.Create some great pass-time which not only relaxes you but also aids to your mental growth</li></ul><div><br></div><p> #doyouworrytoomuch, #worryingunnecessarily, #whyweworrytoomuch, #whyweputourselvesunderpressurenecessarily, #howyourespondtostress, #howtostopworryingnecessarily, #selfimposedstress, #stress, #worry, #anxiety, #handlingpressureofyourlife #causesofselftriggeredanxiety, #signsyouarestressed</p>