<p><span>In this article you will learn the following</span><br></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">48 reasons why you lose your zeal, interest and enthusiasm - most of these could be within your area of control - if you take the right steps and seek other's help</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">12 reasons for loss of interest in your important relationships</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">48 ideas on - how to keep your enthusiasm alive and rekindle your interest and what can you do to go on after your enthusiasm wears-off </b></p><p>Did it ever happened to you - <b data-redactor-tag="b">that you started a project with very high motivation, enthusiasm, energy, hope and intent</b> - but lost your zeal within a short while.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Instances of losing your energy, will and focus - the following list can go on and on - please tick what resonates with you from the following - you can also add what is exclusively your happenstance</b> - all of these and more happens to me so frequently - that I have stopped counting.</p> <ul><li>1.You may find that you lack energy in taking action and doing what is most essential tasks</li> <li>2.You have picked up a goal - like exercising, going to gym, learning to play musical instruments or learning martial-arts, learning a new language etc. On getting inspired by someone</li> <li>3.You have an idea which makes you very-very excited - but when you go into action mode - the magnanimity of actions and the time it would takes - makes you overwhelmed and you give up</li> <li>4.You started with certain assumptions about the type and quantum of work - of a project - but - then it became so complex that your initial motivation waned</li> <li>5.You go to a workshop or seminar and return with full of enthusiasm and actions that you are going to take - but after a few days - you have forgotten all about this resolve of yours</li> <li>6.<b data-redactor-tag="b">You may discover that your initial euphoria evaporates - as it was due to some wishful-thinking</b> [I call this <b data-redactor-tag="b">phenomenon the Bruce-Lee effect </b>- after what happened to me - way back when "Enter the Dragon" movie was released - immediately after coming out of movie-hall - <b data-redactor-tag="b">I felt if I see anyone doing something wrong or if someone attacks me how I will beat the sh*t out of them</b>]</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Loss of interest is not always necessarily linked to a mental disorder - but can create a cycle from which you may find it very hard to break-free from.</b></p><p>Please understand that - <b data-redactor-tag="b">enthusiasm can only help you start a new project or a plan like the 1st gear in your car</b> - which helps move the car but cannot be used to drive it later.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">To sustain and maintain your resolve, focus and determination and also to sail through boring as well as challenging phases</b> - you need to strengthen your inner strength, stamina and the power of your purpose.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">48 reasons why you lose your zeal, interest and enthusiasm - most of these could be within your area of control - if you take the right steps and seek other's help</b></p> <ul><li>1.You may have not fully understood - your real interest and hence on discovering the real-thing lost interest</li> <li>2.Your priorities might have changed</li> <li>3.Your situation have been altered so as to make this insignificant</li> <li>4.You found some very meaningful and purposeful goal</li> <li>5.You found something more attractive and interesting</li> <li>6.It could also be due to your personality, attitude and mindset of losing interest fast</li> <li>7.You may also lack the habit of disciplined follow-through</li> <li>8.You were forced to take-up this goal against your will</li> <li>9.Your focus is skewed - you might be focusing on temporary gratifications like fame, power, recognition, money etc. And not on your core values</li> <li>10.Maybe you are in a profession or job - which is not aligned with your interests, goals and personality</li> <li>11.You are living and doing things to please others</li> <li>12.You look for approval and validation from others - too much</li> <li>13.You are overworked</li> <li>14.You have not taken vacations and breaks </li> <li>15.You ae stuck in a rut</li> <li>16.You are not learning anything new</li> <li>17.You are doing things the same way - you have been doing since long</li> <li>18.You are resisting change</li> <li>19.You are too comfortable in your comfort zones</li> <li>20.You are into toxic or dead relationships</li> <li>21.You are not doing things that used to interests you a lot</li> <li>22.You are not socializing at all</li> <li>23.You have abandoned self-care</li> <li>24.You have taken too much responsibility and it feels like huge burden </li> <li>25.Your whys of doing things are not clear and inspiring enough</li> <li>26.You have an unhealthy lifestyle</li> <li>27.You are afraid to ask for help</li> <li>28.Your have used your willpower too much to make it lose its power</li> <li>29.You are wasting energy on less crucial tasks</li> <li>30.You are ready for something new</li> <li>31.You don't feel valued</li> <li>32.You are emotionally exhausted</li> <li>33.You have too much shackles limiting autonomy</li> <li>34.You are focusing only on the negative</li> <li>35.Because of your burnout - you stopped pushing yourself and you are not aiming high enough</li> <li>36.You are acting on very short-term objectives with no larger vision</li> <li>37.You don't have or don't see any growth and development opportunities</li> <li>38.You are involved in perpetual conflict</li> <li>39.You have unrealistic workload</li> <li>40.You are bored with your routine </li> <li>41.You feel as if you are incapable of making a difference </li> <li>42.You are feeling stressed about your current work load </li> <li>43.You compare yourself with others - in orange and banana comparison </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">44.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">You have gone through a grieving or traumatic experience recently - emotionally-physically-mentally healthy people will bounce back from these in 6-9 months' time</b>. But <b data-redactor-tag="b">if someone has not been able to - then they have to seek expert medical help from qualified and experience professionals</b></li> <li>45.Financial setbacks of mammoth proportions</li> <li>46.Job loss and not getting another job</li> <li>47.You are tired of old mental roadmaps and lost your purpose and have strayed away from your passion pursuits</li> <li>48.You lack patience</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Few medical reasons - that might be triggering your loss of interest, zeal, motivations, inspirations and hopes - many of the following are treatable and few others are manageable</b></p> <ul><li>1.Disorders like - CFS, Auto immune disorder, POIS etc.</li> <li>2.Psychological causes like - depression, sad, bipolar and schizophrenia etc.</li> <li>3.Sleep disorders - like insomnia, over-sleeping, or other sleep disturbances</li> <li>4.Social-phobias </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">5.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Symptoms you need to pay attention and seek medical help - if you feel happening continuously for more than 30 days</b></li> <li>I.Sadness, hopelessness, emptiness, or tearfulness</li> <li>II.Outbursts of anger, irritability, or frustration - without any reason or over minor occurrences</li> <li>III.Loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy</li> <li>IV.Prolonged tiredness and lack of energy such that small tasks require a lot of effort</li> <li>V.Loss of appetite or unexplained increased appetite or cravings which is lead to weight gain and obesity</li> <li>VI.Restlessness</li> <li>VII.Slowed thinking, speaking, or body movements</li> <li>VIII.Feelings of worthlessness or guilt</li> <li>IX.Fixation on past failures or self-blame</li> <li>X.Difficulty thinking or concentrating, making decisions, and remembering things</li> <li>XI.Frequent or repeated thoughts of death or suicide</li> <li>XII.Suicidal actions</li> <li>XIII.Unexplained physical ailments such as headaches or back pain</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">12 reasons for loss of interest in your important relationships</b></p> <ul><li>1.You may have lost interest in your relationship - if you recently realized that you and your partner's values differ in a major way</li> <li>2.Your feelings for your partner might have changed and you are seeing them in a new way </li> <li>3.You may have been subtly feeling this way for a while - but not feeling like having honest conversation with your partner</li> <li>4.You might be entertaining the idea that it might be time to end the relationship.</li> <li>5.You or they have found someone more interesting</li> <li>6.You or they don't feel intimate with them</li> <li>7.You fight over every little thing</li><li>8. Your or their emotional-insecurity - which has got nothing to do with you</li><li><span>9.You are trying to force love</span><br></li> <li>10.You or they are finding other people more attractive</li> <li>11.You may find your partners utterly annoying at times</li> <li>12.Toxicity or violence in relationship</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">48 ideas on - how to keep your enthusiasm alive and rekindle your interest and what can you do to go on after your enthusiasm wears-off - what can you do to go on after your enthusiasm wears-off </b></p> <ul><li>1.Each tip may not be for you, but try and find at least one that you can start practicing </li> <li>2.All the following tips [especially the single sentence advice have detailed 3000+ do-it-yourself blogs, articles and answers in my both the websites as well as in my Quora page]</li> <li>3.Identify whether your this mental state is disinterest or avoidance?</li> <li>4.Although easier said than done - use your common sense to evaluate by measuring your interest and drive to avoid frustrations later - you need to be certain that it is not just a temporary whim -before investing time and effort in any new project</li> <li>5.<b data-redactor-tag="b">You need to accept the fact that everything worthwhile needs sustained periods of hard-work, sacrificing certain pleasures and also doing things that you may not find interesting</b> - and during this cycle - you will also come across highly boring, demotivating and challenging tasks that you must do </li> <li>6.<b data-redactor-tag="b">In many goals only through persistence and that too after a long time - you will start to notice progress and growth as well as change taking place</b> - but this may not happen till you have bounced back from few failures and course-corrected few mistakes - but as you see that you are making progress, your motivation and enthusiasm would grow</li> <li>7.You have learn to nurture and replenish your willpower - and us this at strategically crucial times of critical importance</li> <li>8.You need to work on - how to create laser-sharp focus and concentration for all the important goals and tasks</li> <li>9.You also have to build great discipline of mind and emotions</li> <li>10.You need to schedule brain as well as physical exercises to create emotional-mental-physical wellbeing and also to improve your mood and decreasing the symptoms of depression[even going for a brisk walk each day can help] </li> <li>11.Get enough rest, relaxation and sleep </li> <li>12.Learn and practice good sleep habits</li> <li>13.Find out whether the hugeness of task is making you lose your enthusiasm - if so - break the goal into small-small tasks and milestones </li> <li>14.Take small steps - tackle one thing at a time</li> <li>15.Make plans for future - create contingency plans on how you will handle if certain things don't go as per your plans</li> <li>16.Turn plans into daily-weekly-monthly action steps</li> <li>17.Work on developing and strengthening your resilience</li> <li>18.Create a compelling vison for future - to give you things to look forward to </li> <li>19.Look for things which makes you excited and hopeful</li> <li>20.In case you are struggling - turn to your friends, family and your most trusted anchors for support</li> <li>21.Spend time with people - who normally make you feel come alive and happy and bring out the best in you</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">22.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Reach out for professional help - especially if you notice symptoms and signs of</b> burnout, depression, anxiety, melancholic low mood, mood swings, irritations, losing self-control, frustration, unreasonable anger, loneliness and feelings of worthlessness - <b data-redactor-tag="b">in yourself or anyone you are connected with</b></li> <li>23.Try online counseling and therapy - in case the symptoms are mild</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">24.</b>Create plans - <b data-redactor-tag="b">where you address all those which are most essential and take you forward towards your big-picture</b></li> <li>25.Find ways of doing things without pressurizing yourself too-much or unnecessarily </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">26.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">See what you can scale-back, what you can eliminate and what you can ignore - without any adverse impact</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">27.</b>In case it is very tough challenging phase - and you can't do anything - <b data-redactor-tag="b">then sit and do nothing - till you can get back little hope to taking actions again</b></li> <li>28.Practice stress reduction techniques</li> <li>29.Find a friend with similar hobbies - take a class or join a club -take small steps toward what you once enjoyed -think about why you loved it in the first place </li> <li>30.Practice gratitude for all the things that are going right [amidst all that are wrong in your life right now]</li> <li>31.Reconnect with your loved ones and those who bring light into your life.</li> <li>32.Practice mindfulness techniques like meditation, yoga, and deep breathing can help you get in touch with your body and mind and find peace</li> <li>33.Create inspiring high standards for - how you execute and what you choose to do</li> <li>34.Identify and act as per your core values</li> <li>35.Everyday focus on doing something which isnot only novel but also enriching for you</li> <li>36.Open yourself to the world of possibilities - by learning and taking on tasks which boosts your morale</li> <li>37.Create inspiring experiences by meeting inspired individuals</li> <li>38.Volunteer for charities, churches, schools, clubs, non-profits, and community centers</li> <li>39.Start acting as if you are highly motivated</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">40.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">When you think you can't finish a job - list all the reasons and evidence that shows you will be able to complete the task</b></li> <li>41.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Combine a dreadfully boring - task with something you enjoy</b> - like listening to music while you run or chatting with a friend while you are doing a mundane chore, listening to motivating tape while doing a routine task</li> <li>42.<b data-redactor-tag="b">Create and manage your to-do list and reward yourself for working - in such a way that you feel motivated to do more - like</b> - eat one piece of chocolate after 45-60 minutes of work, write 500 words, and then take a 10-minute break, work for 1 hour and then spend 10 minutes on your social media</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">43.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">Understand the fallacy of the "paradox of choice"—that is having too many options makes it very difficult to choose</b> - which almost always creates regret and a tendency to change action and course - after you have made the choice. <b data-redactor-tag="b">Create your antidote for this effect</b></li> <li>44.Identify a clear purpose - think beyond who you are currently - set measurable, achievable goals - create smart-goals in all your projects to make it naturally motivating as you progress </li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">45.</b>Live a life of no regrets - <b data-redactor-tag="b">learn to let go of your past - mistakes, failures, embarrassments, guilt, shame etc</b>. <b data-redactor-tag="b"></b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">46.</b>G<b data-redactor-tag="b">et outside your comfort zone - as living small doesn't help anyone</b></li> <li>47.Work on conquering your fear</li> <li>48.Surround yourself with people in your life who are also working on goals and share progress and challenges - listen to podcasts, videos and audios - that share positive, encouraging stories</li> <li>49.For every task you do that you don't like, do something that makes you happy</li></ul><div><br></div><p>#whyweloseinterestinrelationship, #whyweloseourmotivation, #whyyouloseyourzealinlife, #whyenthusiasmevaporates, #reasonswhyyoudon'tlikewhatyouusedto, #howtokeepyourenthusiasmalive, #howtorekindleyourinterest, #whattodoifyourenthusiasmandmotivationwearsoff</p>