<p><span>In this article - you will learn the following</span><br></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-100+ tips on How to think positive when everything is going wrong and you are depressed - mastering learned optimism</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">-12 pointers - how to identify your negative thinking pattern</b></p><p>How to become a receiver of positivity</p><p>How to think positive when depressed or anxious How to increase your optimism </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Are you operating from learned-optimism or learned-helplessness or learned-victimhood and or learned-martyrdom</b>?</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Do you feel as if you are stuck in a situation or phase of utter misery</b> - while the rest of the world is going about as usual - with happiness, success and joy? </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">All of us have the occasional emotional crisis or situational depression time to time</b> - especially those <b data-redactor-tag="b">who have never struggled </b>with clinical depression or anxiety. </p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Negative emotions are helpful and useful — only if - you use them to identify</b> what is not working right-now in your life - <b data-redactor-tag="b">and then take actions to mitigate or overcome those.</b></p><p>Finding and enjoying happiness is only possible for you - <b data-redactor-tag="b">when you choose to equip, practice and master with the right sets of tools and techniques</b> - to help you deal with your dark-gloomy, negative and tough phases.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Trying to be positive when you are facing crisis, setbacks, struggles, challenges</b> and failures is certainly not easy.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Positive thinking is never about getting rid of all your negative emotions</b> or ignoring your uncomfortable and difficult feelings.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Negative emotions exist for important reasons.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">The negative emotion's</b> purpose is to help us know <b data-redactor-tag="b">what big-changes we need to make in our life-styles, mindsets, habits and attitude</b> - to grow and to become a better person</p><p>Accept <b data-redactor-tag="b">that creating and living an optimistic life takes efforts, persistence and patienc</b>e [that is it will take time]</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Expecting the life to be how you want it to be</b> - always - is the biggest bottle-neck and recipe for disaster - and it is unrealistic as well.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">While you learn and practice the skills to become an optimist - you will find</b> that you will slip-up often, make many mistakes and embarrass yourself with blunders.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Grumbling, complaining and whining will come easy to you</b> - but would only lead you in opposite direction - that is towards misery, frustrations and hurt.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You have to fight for positive and empowered life - every day - consciously</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">100+ tips on How to think positive when everything is going wrong and you are depressed - mastering learned optimism</b> - ways to become an optimist - given randomly - and as in all my Blogs - ALL the one sentences advice have separate detailed do-it-yourself articles among 900+ blogs in both of my websites</p><ul><li>1.<b data-redactor-tag="b">How to make yourself positive</b> (even when you're struggling with depression)</li> <li>I.Identify areas of your life that gives you maximum negativities or you usually think negatively about - example - your job or your pay or your health or your relationships</li> <li>II.Choose one area and create a plan to transform the factors that triggers negativities in you </li> <li>III.Think of a recent challenge, setback, crisis or trauma you have faced in any area of your life</li> <li>2.Identify what type of negative beliefs is getting triggered because of this event</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">3.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">12 pointers - how to identify your negative thinking pattern</b></li> <li>I.Do you magnify negative aspects of a situation and filter out all the positive ones</li> <li>II.Do you forget the 10 compliment and focus only one criticism by a known envious person</li> <li>III.Do you always blame yourself when anything goes wrong</li> <li>IV.Do you take everything personally - even though the speaker meant it as a general statement</li> <li>V.Do you start expecting the worst automatically - without even knowing the facts</li> <li>VI.Do you make mountain out of molehill</li> <li>VII.Do you put spices to make a small event look like a catastrophe </li> <li>VIII.Do you blame others for what happened to you instead of yourself </li> <li>IX.Do you avoid taking responsibility for your thoughts and feelings as well as your actions and decisions</li> <li>X.Do you try to go for such levels of perfectionism that you fail</li> <li>XI.You see things as only good or bad - nothing in between</li> <li>XII.If something goes wrong - you assume every time it will happen like that</li> <li>4.Then note-down what actions you have taken - impulsively or after thinking through - recall how it made you feel when you took actions and challenged your beliefs or situation </li> <li>5.Use the process of learned optimism to recognize your habitually persistent negative thoughts by identifying, listing and then challenging their logic and rationale</li> <li>6.Schedule a chunk of time - when you will evaluate - how you managed through the day - when and what made you think and reach positively </li> <li>7.In case it was more of negative - reframe your situation by identifying what positive value-addition that utterly negative situation gave you</li> <li>8.Create positive incident diary - where you note-down all the triumphs, victories and success and top of the world feelings</li> <li>9.Exercise, play physical team games</li> <li>10.Make self-care your priority - create a healthy life style, sleep well, et healthy, exercise</li> <li>11.Learn to meditate as per your personality</li> <li>12.Relax, take vacations</li> <li>13.Learn the art of making others laugh</li> <li>14.Make yourself laugh seek humor in everyday happenings. When you can laugh at life, you feel less stressed</li> <li>15.Surround yourself with positive people - who uplift you</li> <li>16.Avoid and get rid of negative and toxic people</li> <li>17.Write in details being as specific as you can on your future - like the type of job, the type of organization, the type of person and the type of place you would like to live in future</li> <li>18.Imagine the worst possible scenario - then imagine the best possible outcome - then focus on the most realistic outcome - lastly create a plan for your optimally realistic scenario</li> <li>19.To break the loop of negative thoughts distract yourself and change the environment of the room by - say - making a sudden clap, exclamation sound, make any loud noise, for say stop - to startle not only yourself but others</li> <li>20.Shift your attention by noticing the light, colors, sounds, and smells around you.</li> <li>21.Force yourself to consciously think about your negative thoughts - and then find solution</li> <li>22. Break down your fears by understanding your fear and gaining information about your fear is the antidote to fear - if you have a fear, understand that the odds of it happening is about 8% - ask yourself</li> <li>I.How likely is it that this will never resolve or change</li> <li>II.What is the probability of this event affecting your life completely </li> <li>III.What other factors might have contributed to this feeling of fear</li> <li>23.Accept that you are imperfect</li> <li>24.Aim for success and excellence avoid being perfect consciously - perfectionism gets triggered from motional-insecurities</li> <li>25.Be comfortable with making mistakes and failing and being wrong - while you are stretching yourself and growing this mental-habit enhances your ability to learn new things and move forward with your life</li> <li>26.Understand that confronting your fears, your vulnerabilities your insecurities and allowing yourself to be yourself helps you become happier and more productive.</li> <li>27.Start every day on a positive note - create a ritual in which you start off each day with something uplifting and positive. Here are a few ideas:</li> <li>28.Tell yourself that it's going to be a great day or any other positive affirmation.</li> <li>29.Listen to a happy and positive song or playlist.</li> <li>30.Share some positivity by giving a compliment or doing something nice for someone.</li> <li>31.Stop fighting or ignoring or suppressing your anxiety - become an objective-observer watching from a distance -evaluate, challenge and correct it if it is distorted</li> <li>32.If you find your concerns right - get into the problem solving mode - by understanding the root-cause which triggers this </li> <li>33.Connect with people - reach out for social support - by courageously reaching out - you no longer feel alone, your vulnerability connects you with others, and you often realize everyone shares similar struggles.</li> <li>34.Sleep on it -sit in silence- if can the meditate for thoughtlessness state of mind</li> <li>35.Schedule a favorite activity into your calendar</li> <li>36.Create and enforce healthy boundaries</li> <li>37.Stop taking things personally</li> <li>38.Choose whom you spend your time with regularly</li> <li>39.Face the mirror - when you have fallen into a negative spiral - ask whether everything is bad or are there any silver-lining</li> <li>40.Identify and focus on what you can control</li> <li>41.Ask the right questions to understand the situation better</li> <li>42.Surround yourself with successful, energetic, enthusiastic and naturally optimistic people</li> <li><a name="questions"></a>43.Focus on efforts rather than results - take actions whenever you find yourself into the trap of negativities </li> <li><a name="activities"></a>44.Instead of trying to predict the future - create the future by taking actions towards your dreams - Set motivating goals </li> <li>45.Seek therapy for if you feel you are depressed - remember that this feeling of depression isn't permanent – better times are ahead</li> <li>46.Always make your bed in the morning - irrespective of how you are feeling</li> <li>47.Participate in enjoyable activities </li> <li>48.Be productive get important things done</li> <li>49.Get outside to get in touch with nature and feel the atmosphere by seeing, feeling, hearing, and smelling</li> <li>50.Analyze what went wrong - think about the things that led up to your current situation to avoid future mistakes </li> <li>51.Give yourself credit for small accomplishments </li> <li>52.Improve your posture - sit straight - walk naturally</li> <li>53.Try doing something nice for someone you care about - make someone else's day.</li> <li>54.Be playful. There's nothing to lift your mood and change your thinking like taking some time to embrace playfulness and your inner child.</li> <li>55.Read an inspiring book - watch your favorite cartoon</li> <li>56.Create something paint or draw, sew some new curtains, build a model or even put together a puzzle.</li> <li>57.Start small. Working at a huge goal all at once can be overwhelming and sometimes discouraging</li> <li>58.Take things one step at a time and chip away at your ultimate goal until you get there.</li> <li>59.No matter how negative you're feeling, never let yourself quit - don't expect change to be easy</li> <li>60.Accept the changes happening in your life - learn and practice to be resilient</li> <li>61.Face your challenges and fears head-on</li> <li>62.Understand and accept that while you pursue worthwhile goals there are bound to be setbacks along the way - never let these stop you from heading towards your ultimate goal.</li> <li>63.Take time to figure out what you really want</li> <li>64.Stop making excuses</li> <li>65.Stop playing the victim - instead take charge of your life -bad things happen to everyone from time to time. Pitying yourself and wanting others to feel sorry for you isn't going to make things better</li> <li>66.Create smaller or more realistic goals so you can feel accomplished instead of defeated each day.</li> <li>67.Take control of your decisions - and once you decide take action</li> <li>68.Practice to think positively about the past -think positively about the present -think positively about the future</li> <li><a name="exercises"></a>69.Work on building your self-esteem, self-image, and confidence.</li> <li>70.Focus on what's possible.</li> <li>71.Engage in a hobby that gets you moving be active - if you are feeling bad - go for a walk. Lift weights. Garden.</li> <li>72.Focus on life afterwards - focus on getting through each hour.</li> <li>73.Realize you are human - so you will make mistakes all the time - you will make mistakes when you know better -allow every situation to be a learning moment.</li> <li>74.Accept the fact that you are not perfect and never will be - no matter how hard you try.</li> <li>75.Always strive to be better all the time - only from your yesterday </li> <li>76.Never ever compare yourself with others - you are good enough</li> <li>77.Focus on excellence </li> <li>78.Turn off TV News channels and social media</li> <li>79.Make a list of 100 things you enjoy and love doing</li> <li>80.List 30 reasons why you are great</li> <li>81.List 30 reasons you are unique</li> <li>82.Listen to upbeat music</li> <li>83.Breathe try taking slow, deep breaths and focus on every breath you take and you will realize how your breathing can influence the way you think and feel</li> <li>84.Volunteer and engage in positive activities in your community - helping others helps you reduce stress, combats depression, keeps you mentally stimulated, and provides a sense of purpose</li> <li>85.Socialize with friends </li></ul><p><span><br></span></p><p><span>#positivity, #positiveattitude, #howtobepositive, #howtocreatepositivityinyourlife, #creatinglearnedoptimism, #howtothinkpositivewhenthingsgoingwrong, #masteringpositivity, #identifyyournegativethinkingpatterns, #howtoincreaseyouroptimism, #becomeachannelofpositivity, #becomethereceiverandconduitofpositivity, #helpothersbecomepositive, #howtothinkpositivewhendepressed, #fromdepressiontopositivity</span></p>