Beat Your Stress Big or Small

Beat Your Stress Big or Small - Simple and brilliant ways to relax and de-stress and unwind yourself

In this article you will learn

-15+ proven ways on How to deal with life's major shockers and shakers – which cause big stress in our lives

-43+ ways on How to deal with life's every day stress - Simple, practical and implementable tips to destress, unwind, relax and let-go of the life-sapping negative-energies

Simple and brilliant ways to relax and de-stress and unwind yourself

The type of stress - the definition of stress and the quantum of stress - have not only changed in many ways but also have become more complex and complicated - in this post ongoing corona covid19 world.

For many of us this new type of stress has now become an integral part of our daily existence - and it can also probably be called new normal.

Like we get daily doses of stress in various forms and from many different directions – we also need to learn and incorporate and practice consciously – the various relaxing and coping techniques while using many different ways and tools to unwind and calm our emotions, nerves, mind – on daily basis.

Because all of us are unique human-beings – and our stressors are unique to ourselves - therefore the antidotes that each one of us need for de-stressing too are different.

There are no one-size fits all or methods which worked for others would work for you - in minimizing and managing our day to day stress.

The tips I have given here - are here for you to try and to test and to experiment with to find what works for you AND also create your own should these methods give you improved ideas.

Because I have found that many popular methods - did not work for me - so I experimented till I found something working - likewise you too have to go through similar grind.

In this article we will not be discussing stressors or how the stress gets created- only how to manage our daily stress more effectively and better - Here it in this article we will be focusing on how to do it yourself.

All of us have to understand that there are many situations and circumstances where – we need expert medical professional's help.

2 major categories of stress

• A.THE BIG-SHOCKERS - The events, incidents and happenings – which impacts our lives in kind of irreversible ways and disrupts everything – these could be the death of the most loved one, paralyzing illnesses or accidents, separation or divorce from the person you are deeply attached, total financial ruins, betrayal of major nature, losing your job etc.
• B.The second category is of our Everyday-Upsets and Stressors - those triggers anger, anxiety and stress – like – fight with your partner, child or boss or failures or anxiety about future of yourself and or your children etc.

The following 6 military terms have once again have become relevant besides the existing VUCA [volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous]

1. BOHICA (bend over, here it comes again)

2. FUBAR (f**ked/fouled up beyond all recognition or any repair/all reason) or fucked up by the assholes in the rear[rear meaning the top-leadership]

3. FUBU (f**ked /fouled up beyond all understanding)

4. SNAFU situation normal - all f**ked up

5. SUSFU - situation unchanged - still f**ked up)

6. TARFU (totally and royally f**ked up or things are really f**ked up)

Like I always maintain – that when you are in the actual roller-coaster and going through the big-stress-causing-situation – no technique or methods will work as you won't remember or would be in the mental, emotional and or physical state to apply them - unless you have mastered them as sub-conscious reflex and auto-reaction.

All these techniques – will be useful – in bouncing back and in bringing yourself to better emotional resourceful-states [as per what works for you -after you have tested and retested them in various situation and people]

And they only work when you have practiced them enough to make them your nature.

15+ basic understanding and ways on How to deal with life's major shockers, rockers and shakers – which cause big stress in our lives

• 1.Understand that – the only antidote – for stress, depression, bouncing-back is taking-actions
• 2.Also you need to understand that - all of us can take actions - only when our stressors are removed AND we are out of the initial shock and our mind has started feeling-pain and thinking about that disruptor
• 3.The following should give you lots of idea – these ideas you have to start using in everyday life till they become part of you reflex action
• I.Never try to ignore, suppress or deny – the pain, hurt, anger, shock or any such emotion you are feeling
• II.When we feel these painful emotions fully – only then we would be able to get over and move on with our lives
• III.Identify your emotions – and – accept that you are going through these emotion(s)
• IV.Let yourself breakdown, cry, scream – if you feel like it
• V.Never put a false bravado by believing – that brave doesn't cry – the truth is only brave can cry
• VI.Yes – in case – all others who are impacted by this stressful situation are not able to manage themselves on their own – and – you are the only one who can help them – then control your feelings at that moment – to divert your attention to the people who need your caring approach
• VII.You can grieve simultaneously while helping others – as helping others is also a great therapy
• VIII.We have to understand – all of us grieve differently – and have our own mechanism and pace to bounce-back and move on – whether it is death or separation from a loved one, financial-ruin, sudden-job-loss, discovering a serious illness for yourself or a loved one or any such serious thing
• IX.Once you have kind of come to live with the loss – then it becomes the time for adjusting and creating the new future or new normal
• X.6 focus areas to introspect - when you are calm enough - sit alone meditate to identify what
• A.Changes have taken place in your life
• B.What remains same
• C.How these new changes will impact your plans and future
• D.What you need to change within yourself and in your habits and perceptions and expectations
• E.Identify your new priorities
• F.What type of future you would like to have – this is something that you have to spend time a lot – many-many times on regular basis – as this will keep changing
• XI. 6 action-steps for future
• A.Your new priorities and focus
• B.Your new vision - how to accomplish them
• C.The new habit formation
• D.Getting rid of older habits
• E.Acquiring newer skills
• F.Implementing, improvising and persisting till you start on path of regular accomplishment of milestones
• XII.Please understand – that if you are unable to come to have hold over your grief, loss, shock, anger, hurt - to function normally – even after say maximum 9 months – it is the time to seek expert professional help.
• XIII.Because if you seek help now – you would be able start living – but – if you hold on to your grief, loss, shock, anger, hurt – you will not only make your life pathetic but also make your loved-one's life miserable.

43+ ways on How to deal with life's every day stress - Simple, practical and implementable tips to destress, unwind, relax and let-go of the life-sapping negative-energies.

• 1.Apply few of the above to get yourself back into a more resourceful emotional, physical and mental state faster
• 2.Get moving – physically change the scene or just move to another space or place
• 3.Reassess your to-do lists and future plans
• 4.Cut out things that add to your stress
• 5.Avoid people who bring you down
• 6.Only say yes when you want to
• 7.Recognize when you're stressed
• 8.Identify your stress response
• I.Do you get overexcited, angry, agitated, overly emotional, melancholic, revengeful, hitting out at others – then for these – you need to find the triggers and your accumulated and overflowing grief, shame, guilt – unless you treat them – you will keep getting stressed
• II.Do you tend to become depressed, withdrawn and go into your shell and become totally unresponsive – then you need to find ways to love yourself
• III.Do you freeze when under stress or violence or anger of another person – then you might have to deal with your trauma that you might have undergone
• IV.Or any other reactions that happens within you
• 9.Create ritual of activities for quick stress relief – picking from above – till they become your habit - start small
• 10. If something you had hope for did not work – it doesn't matter - don't force anything on yourself - move on until you find what works best for you
• 11. Practice wherever you are and whenever you can
• 12. Create your very own space your sanctuary
• 13. Create cushions in your to-do calendar – meaning the deadlines should have buffers
• 14. Put your mental health first and listen to yourself -what you want
• 15. Identity your stress triggers -while you're not going to be able to eliminate every stress trigger in your life - you can at least remove the ones that you have influence over.
• 16. Say no – what you don't want to do – use this incident or phase to start asserting yourself in the right manner with people who take you for granted or take advantage of you
• 17. Totally switch-off from social media
• 18. Forgive yourself and forgive those who have hurt or harmed you – so that you can get over the pain and hurt faster
• 19. If possible meditate – but we should be aware of which type of mediation will be most suitable to for us – this depends on your root-trigger of stress
• 20. Be with a person with whom you are very deeply connected and who understands you well – just be with him or her
• 21. Indulge in old good memories by going through your albums
• 22. Practice progressive muscle relaxation
• 23. Connect with your body – identify what feels are there in every part – began from toes and end only at the head
• 24. Spend time with your loved ones
• 25. Hug your loved one
• 26. Take a walk in the nature - go barefoot in dew-soaked lawn or park - watch the sunrise - go for a swim - swing on a swing
• 27. If you one of those people who feel sleepy when upset – go ahead take a nap
• 28. Dance like nobody's watching – this is when you are stressed for other reasons than losing someone through death
• 29. Take care of small kids – if they are in family – watch the children play
• 30. Go on a cleaning-spree and de-clutter, do the laundry, organize your closet
• 31. Cuddle with a loved one – preferably a child who is close to you
• 32. Engage in physical movement that engages both your arms and legs, such as walking, swimming, running, dancing, climbing, or tai chi etc.
• 33. Go for exercise and yoga
• 34. Challenge yourself doing something that makes you stretch yourself beyond your mental, emotional and physical self-accepted limits
• 35. Take a bubble bath, squeeze a stress ball, eat dark chocolate, try out aromatherapy
• 36. Watch a movie – you have been thinking for long
• 37. Smile at strangers
• 38. Sing or hum a song you have good memories attached or play musical instrument if can play
• 39. Give yourself a great treat
• 40. Paint, read a comic book or watch a cartoon
• 41. Cook a new cuisine
• 42. Take out the weeds in your garden
• 43. Go and do something meaningful for underprivileged – which makes you involve physically interacting with them

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