<p> <span>In this article </span><b data-redactor-tag="b">you will read about and learn</b></p> <ul><li><b data-redactor-tag="b">A.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">11 reasons How and Why people develop deep emotional-insecurities</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">B.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">63 Signs of highly emotionally-insecure people</b></li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">C.</b><b data-redactor-tag="b">36 Tips on How to handle insecure people without going insane yourself</b></li></ul> <p><br></p><p>People <b data-redactor-tag="b">who have been hurt deeply AND especially those who hold on to these</b> hurts, traumas, pains, scars <b data-redactor-tag="b">for long – HURTS OTHERS BADLY, DEEPLY AND CONTINUOUSLY.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">They hurt those people more – who are closest to them.</b></p><p>Sounds <b data-redactor-tag="b">unimaginable and downright ridiculous</b> – that the person <b data-redactor-tag="b">who has felt pain and suffered herself/himself </b>– <b data-redactor-tag="b">how can that person give pain and hurt</b> her/his closest ones.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">11 reasons How and Why people develop deep emotional-insecurities</b></p> <ul><li>1.If they have always been insulted, belittled, humiliated, beaten-up for small excuses AND have received little love from their family – this is one of the factors</li> <li>2.They have had traumatic, abusive, violent marriage</li> <li>3.Let me give you a simple exercise – take any very-light weight thing in your hand – keep the hand and hold it just like that.</li> <li>4.If you hold it for few seconds – nothing major will happen, if you hold it for few minutes – you will feel sensation of pain or discomfort and if you hold for hours in the same position – you would have got major sprain AND if you hold for days – it will require major surgical procedure.</li> <li>5.Similarly – those who hold on to their pain for long [even long after the reason for those traumas, loss, nightmares, pain and sufferings are over] – needs major treatment and therapy.</li> <li>6.Some of them actually keep living their past-experience through active visualization. </li> <li>7.Many of these people develop – deep insecurities, fears, anxieties, profound mistrust and many such subconscious attitude and behavior patterns.</li> <li>8.As a result they develop personalities which fall in the categories of anti-social disorders and other treatment needing psychological issues.</li> <li>9.If they are submissive – they may become passive-aggressive WHICH is by far the most dangerous person to have in your close relationships.</li> <li>10. People in our life who are insecure can make life tough for us - but they also end up creating hell for themselves because of aforesaid insecurities, fears etc.</li> <li>11. If your own self-confidence level is low and you have someone close to you who is highly insecure – thy may leave lasting wounds in you too </li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">63 Signs of highly emotionally-insecure people</b></p> <ul><li>1.They have very low self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence </li> <li>2.Because of the above the insecure person may feel psychologically incompetent or feels threatened anyone questions them about their work or their action</li> <li>3.Surprisingly the insecure people are unable to internalize compliments, praises and recognition – even if it has been given to them on continuous basis</li> <li>4.On the other hand – they take everything personally – even jokes which is not directed towards them – they will twist it internally so that it makes them feel that person joking has attacked their dignity in public</li> <li>5.They constantly need reassurance that they are loved – because this factor cannot be handled by encouraging them time to time – as they need to hear this on every day basis</li> <li>6.Their need for validation, recognition, appreciation, recognition is so high – that if you give them all the time but miss on a few occasions – you may invite their wrath in most unexpected ways </li> <li>7.The life of people around them becomes pathetic – as all the time praising them, reassuring them, telling them that they love her/him etc. – without any reason – is kind of impossible on everyday basis</li> <li>8.In fact they drain the energies of the people who are closest to them OR anyone who happen to support them</li> <li>9.At work, they need to look more competent and skilled others – so they may play politics, backbite, take credit of other's work and efforts and also bulldoze others</li> <li>10. Even their children may have harrowing time as – because of their own insecurities and feeling-inadequate – they put unnecessary constant pressure to make their children - outperform their classmates, teammates and socially etc.</li> <li>11. These people will rarely acknowledge the positives in others </li> <li>12. Getting them to give constructive and meaningful feedback could be impossible</li> <li>13. If you receive rarest-time compliment or appreciation – it would be wise to become alert. They normally don't feel the need to acknowledge, appreciate or recognize anyone ALTHOUGH paradoxically they need it from everyone</li> <li>14. Yes negative comments you can expect – without even asking for any</li> <li>15. They become expert in fault-finding – to cover up their own faults, weaknesses etc. </li> <li>16. Insecure people acquire – a habit of finding excuse to lash out at others [this was their subconscious defense mechanism when they were going through pain in the past BUT now it is part of their persona] - this is only so can they can distract others from or avoid looking their own imperfections</li> <li>17. They hold grudges</li> <li>18. They can hold anger for years against you</li> <li>19. They just are unable to let-go, forgive and move-on</li> <li>20. They keep dragging their long-gone past into their current and future relationship</li> <li>21. Their subconscious urge to cause pain in another person may stem from underlying internal insecurities manifesting in verbal or physical aggressiveness</li> <li>22. Many times they become jealous of the happiness and success of their closest ones – especially those who stand-by with them and support and help them</li> <li>23. For them their needs are paramount – others need they may not recognized AND even if it conveyed to them – they may just ignore that or give a mere lip service</li> <li>24. They Tell You They Love You All The Time (And Expect You To Say The Same In Return)</li> <li>25. They Can't Take Any Constructive Criticism</li> <li>26. Their need to control - insecure people may have over whelming desire to control the relationships </li> <li>27. Their need to always be right and never be proven wrong </li> <li>28. Bouts of Anger or Frustration</li> <li>29. They everything as a criticism and jumps straight to being defensive</li> <li>30. They read far too much into innocent statements and will accuse you of intending things which were never meant</li> <li>31. They can be extremely Jealous</li> <li>32. Their compliments are often disguised insults - Bullying and belittling are part of the arsenal of an insecure person</li> <li>33. To make themselves feel better they try and make others feel small.</li> <li>34. They may make you Feel Guilty Or Insecure – even if the mstake is theirs</li> <li>35. They Overreacts</li> <li>36. They throw many types of tantrums</li> <li>37. Their every Problem Is Someone Else's Fault</li> <li>38. You can't expect to have an honest discussion – without their feeling bad and punishing you with closing the communication</li> <li>39. They encourages Failure – as the insecure people don't know how to succeed - So they love to see other people wallowing in failure</li> <li>40. They struggle with intimacy.</li> <li>41. They panic easily</li> <li>42. They feel as if they are being attacked all the time – so their defense mechanism works all the time</li> <li>43. They invent problems where none exists</li> <li>44. If you find yourself with a toxic person -Distance Yourself and Put Your Foot Down</li> <li>45. They take offense when it is not intended</li> <li>46. They get pleasure in offending Others</li> <li>47. They can put down people under the guise of giving them valuable feedback – which will be nothing but negativities</li> <li>48. They also Put Themselves Down</li> <li>49. They Really, Really, Really Want Everyone to Like Them</li> <li>50. They Talk about their problems in situations where they SHOULD NOT be talking about their problems</li> <li>51. They expect your partner to read your mind</li> <li>52. They live in fear of judgement on every minute basis</li> <li>53. They avoid meeting new people – they have very few friends</li> <li>54. They always feel as if they are stuck in the Middle of a Challenge</li> <li>55. They are not honest with themselves – meaning they create a mask of self-image</li> <li>56. They are scared to go deeper and face themselves</li> <li>57. They live in a world with denial </li> <li>58. They can't trust others – because they don't trust themselves – so they are suspicious of everything that others do it for them</li> <li>59. They can create the worstest scenario – even if everything is going smoothly</li> <li>60. They feel uncomfortable – if things are going well – then they make every effort to self-sabotage that phase</li> <li>61. They love being pain and victim mode – as this is something that they have grown comfortable with</li> <li>62. They live is world of fiction and are not rooted in reality</li> <li>63. They miss out on the best of life – although they have every reason to feel blessed – they make themselves feel miserable</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">36 Tips on How to handle insecure people without going insane yourself</b></p> <ul><li>1.It is not always possible to avoid people who possess insecure traits and behaviors, so what do you do</li> <li>2.Start by managing your own feelings - Don't Take it Personally - When Someone is Insecure - It's Not About You</li> <li>3.Don't kill yourself for their momentary pleasure</li> <li>4.Learning to safeguarding yourself from emotional damage</li> <li>5.Discover yourself – develop faith in yourself, identify your values and your positive beliefs</li> <li>6.Learn and practice Assertive meaningful and practical effective ways to communicate when your beliefs and values are challenged</li> <li>7.Establishing Boundaries when Dealing with Insecurity</li> <li>8.Focus on self-care and your own physiological and psychological needs like love, esteem, individuality, reaching our full potential</li> <li>9.Focus on self-development -getting someone else to change their behavior is much more difficult than changing your own. </li> <li>10. Help them to see the good in themselves - by reminding them of character traits they possess that you value</li> <li>11. Let them know you care -If you are dealing with someone you love such as a family member- let them know you are there with them and will support them</li> <li>12. Also tell them that you will do everything possible to work with them to improve the relationship</li> <li>13. Actively listen to them and provide the right suggestions- only - if they ask for your opinion</li> <li>14. Don't Tell Them They're Wrong</li> <li>15. The best way to encourage somebody to feel better about an insecure situation is to give them concrete evidence of their own worth</li> <li>16. Help Them Find the Roots Of Their Insecurity</li> <li>17. Reassure Constructively and keep yourself from losing yourself – without becoming a person who gets drained ONLY because he/she is continuously boosts them over and over again, </li> <li>18. Ask what practical things you can do together to make them feel more worthwhile</li> <li>19. If you want to someone close out of the reassurance-insecurity vicious-pattern – give them something that they can look at feel good about themselves – so that you don't have to exhaust yourself regularly</li> <li>20. Stop Them when they Start Comparing Themselves or get into a negative self-beating mode</li> <li>21. Notice Their Patterns</li> <li>22. Don't Let Their Issues Become Your Issues</li> <li>23. Don't Be Afraid To Ask tough Questions</li> <li>24. Understand that you cannot change anyone at all AND it is neither your responsibility nor capability to fix others</li> <li>25. Make sure you are clear on your own well-being, self-care and values as well as limits - and - what you are willing to allow as well as what you are not</li> <li>26. Clearly express how you feel every time they change their mind or when they are not clear about their feelings- to let them experience or feel the consequences of their behaviors, actions and words</li> <li>27. Never take responsibility for their actions - The problem is the other person, not you</li> <li>28. A confident person does not doubt, let alone drag others into their channels of insecurity and personal dilemmas. </li> <li>29. If you think that you are wasting your time, get out of there. </li> <li>30. If you appreciate that person, make them see what consequences their behavior begets, but always in a constructive, open, and firm way.</li> <li>31. Help them Identify the source of the problem together – AND – get their commitment whether they are willing to change AND will take your support</li> <li>32. Don't put-off uncomfortable conversations - It's not your fault he/she is insecure</li> <li>33. Keep doing the things that make you -the real you – and make you feel happy</li> <li>34. Have other friends and activities – to let your motivations and energies getting recharged</li> <li><a name="step_3_2"></a>35. Talk with your partner, <a name="step_3_3"></a>Keep talking, Touch one another. Touching, embracing, and other physical intimacies reinforce the emotional bond that you share with your partner. space</li> <li>36. 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