In this article you will learn the following
-6 reasons why people keep suffering maladies - when they can improve their quality of life
-70 DIY tips to Make you start believing yourself and to help you get back into a fully self-empowered and resourceful emotional-state
In today's world more and more people are having increasingly reducing belief in themselves.
When we go through - major setbacks, crisis, failures or any other life-shaking and upsetting events - This lack of belief becomes even more acute.
Because we do not have adequate Emotional-Security - we fall victim to the vicious cycle of negative thoughts becoming beliefs creating even worse state of Emotional-uncertainty within us - ultimately impacting our self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence etc. to a very low-levels.
As a result we lose our belief in ourselves completely.
6 reasons why people keep suffering maladies - when they can improve their quality of life
1.They are living in absolute Denial mode
2.They are unaware about - what is causing stress and such emotional-turmoil in them - and so keep living in misery
3.They Are not aware that there are help available - for improving their quality of life - to much better degrees
4.They may not go for help – maybe - because of Taboo or EGO
5.They Don't know whom to approach for help
6.They use external, temporary and quick-relief
70 DIY tips to Make you start believing yourself and to help you get back into a fully self-empowered and resourceful emotional-state
- 1.Challenge the experts, don't take their opinion as final by learning to seek informed-clarity
- 2.Always seek second opinion - to understand the different perspectives and interpretations
- 3.Understand that ALL the negative emotional-feelings are signals and they have important purpose which can lead to our growth
- 4.Learn and practice assertiveness
- 5.ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL- without berating yourself for feeling negative or angry or Guilty or Embarrassed or Ashamed or scared or insecure or frustrated
- 6.Be yourself and allow yourself to be genuinely you - irrespective of how uncomfortable you may feel initially - but once the false acquired or acted persona falls - you will feel great
- 7.Find someone who believes in you - because For EVERY dream, there are hundreds of "experts" waiting in the wings to explain why that dream of yours "CAN'T" be realized
- 8.Start using the self-talk of "this I CAN'T DO IT YET – but let me find out what I need to learn, improve, change to enable and empower me to do it" - Instead of just telling I can't do it
- 9.Practice stretching beyond your current capabilities and limits on a daily basis
- 10. Understand the difference between REAL IMPOSSIBLE and those which are beyond you – BUT WHICH CAN BE IMPROVED WITH PRACTICE
- 11. 7 REAL IMPOSSIBLE things that I can guarantee none of you can do - for fun
- I.Always remain young - never age
- II.Live always without any problem - throughout your life
- III.Becoming immortal - that is live forever
- IV.Going in your past and changing that to what you wanted
- V.Dying the when and how you want to die
- VI.Go to the other-world [if that exists] and come back
- VII.Meet a ghost - the real one like you have read in the various stories
- 12. Set the bar high for yourself in the areas of your passion and Set a Long-term Vision
- 13. Learn to Challenge your beliefs and assumptions
- 14. Practice Challenging your endurance inch by inch by seeking change Pro-actively
- 15. Only Compete with yourself
- 16. Stop comparing yourself with others
- 17. Focusing on improving and doing your best
- 18. Create excellence rather than perfection
- 19. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good naturally
- 20. Enroll mentors
- 21. Have role models try inculcating - the habits that makes them so respectable to you
- 22. Talk to, read about, watch, and listen to people who have overcome obstacles to reach wherever they have reached
- 23. Understand and accept completely - that it is fine to try and fail and to put yourself out there
- 24. Understanding that Failures, making mistakes, people not agreeing with you, everyone not liking you are all have positive built-in – and NOT absolutely NEAGTIVE as many of you might believe
- 25. Choose to Push past your comfort zone
- 26. Learn to Become at ease with being uncomfortable
- 27. Proactively choose to go into the realm of uncertainties and unknown
- 28. Practice and Learn through repeated attempts
- 29. Experiment and try-out newer ways
- 30. Understand that - When you doubt yourself - you give power to your doubt –in spite of doubt Take actions towards your goals – in the worst scenario you will fail – but when you fail you only have to get up and try again
- 31. Get the people who bring you down – out of your life
- 32. Maintain record of all times - when you attempted something big plus your successes
- 33. Also maintain a journal of what lessons you can take from your failures – DO THIS WHEN YOU ARE RELATIVELY FREE AND RELAXED
- 34. Learn to be persistent - Focus on trying and trying again – when the goal is worthwhile and meaningful to you
- 35. Create opportunities from all the setbacks - they will not be visible easily and immediately - this is an art which you have to practice to master
- 36. Learn to surrender – when things are overwhelming – many times doing nothing when you don't know what to do - could be best decision
- 37. Work on creating a very attractive and meaningful future - from your current situation – however low it may be – in fact if you are at the rock-bottom – then the only way you will go is up
- 38. Express your pains through various ways – blogs, Instagram, videos, talks
- 39. Indulge in your passions – identify What makes you forget about the world around you
- 40. Accept your emotions without judging them
- 41. Be committed to take actions to bounce back
- 42. Win all the battles - in your mind first through visualization - then creates plans-learn-implement to accomplish
- 43. Explore and identify the cause of temporary disbelief – lack of knowledge, earlier failed-attempt etc.
- 44. Identify and Play to your strengths
- 45. Build your competence slowly and steadily
- 46. Operate from your area of control and avoid all that is beyond your current area influence
- 47. Identify and use your edge over others
- 48. Succeeding at small tasks will increase your faith in your skills
- 49. Expose yourself only to the positive media
- 50. Dare to take calculated risks - Challenge and Go against accepted norms
- 51. Ask yourself - Will all of this even matter in five years
- 52. Ask yourself – What is the worst thing that could happen – and then what can I do to minimize/avoid it
- 53. Define your goals in achievable and measurable terms
- 54. Set the bar lower to be consistent on those days when you feel down and out - It doesn't mean you should not do what is known as important but urgent tasks
- 55. Acknowledge your disappointments – then work on to find solution should they happen again
- 56. Know when to quit and when to go-on till you succeed
- 57. Understand that Failure itself is no guarantee of success without commitment, devotion, persistence, and constant action - Just because you failed does not mean Next time you will succeed
- 58. Even if It is bad right for you now BUT believe that - You will survive
- 59. At times - Not getting what you want can be a blessing - Think about what to do next
- 60. Remember that you are not the only one who failed
- 61. Become an objective observer - Remove your focus from what is missing – instead train yourself to see what you need to do and then do it
- 62. Learn, Prepare, practice, implement and then repeat this cycle
- 63. Accept responsibility for your own failure -Recognize when you haven't succeeded -Make sure the pieces from your failure have been sufficiently picked up
- 64. Improvise and Re- strategize
- 65. Move on by Re-prioritizing
- 66. Develop and Practice good habits of mind
- 67. Understand that There is no such thing as an overnight success – it is always a long -long road
- 68. Give your 100% - Do it with passion
- 69. Take complete responsibility for your actions-decisions-consequences - because It is always You vs You - in the end anyway
- 70. Allow yourself to cry - should you feel overwhelmed - remember only brave can cry and not the weak
12 life-skills for you to Learn-practice-master and live - the DIY tips are given as separate article in the blog section of Success Unlimited Mantra website - for detailed do-it-yourself tips on all above points - please watch my videos of YouTube and or read the blogs in both of my websites]
- 1.Using your frustrations to create something great
- 2.Bouncing back from failures
- 3.Adversity to triumph
- 4.Beating- burnout
- 5.Managing Your anger
- 6.How to be yourself
- 7.How to love yourself unconditionally
- 8.How to stop comparing
- 9.Increasing your self-confidence
- 10. Managing your stress
- 11. How to empower yourself
- 12. Which Is Better – Discipline or Motivation - any day disciplined-habit beats motivation, hands-down