Problems in Life and Their Solutions

​Life is a passage through a wilderness which constantly throws many small, huge, unexpected and sometimes totally disrupting - challenges, difficulties, obstacles, problems, situations.

Each person whether a new born or a veteran faces numerous setbacks, failures, mistakes, crises – on an on-going basis throughout their life.

Although in many instances it may not feel so [it could actually be a real bad thing to happen] – our day to day impediments, hurdles barriers are ALL GREAT OPPORTUNITIES as well signs that we need to learn, relearn and unlearn to cope AND PROSPER, Grow and Succeed.

Our Perception of Obstacles actually decides whether during our roughest paths and patches -we feel PAIN/Hopelessness/Dejection OR we accept that the time is real tough but have the hopes that we are going to overcome these.

When obstacles come unexpectedly - We just freeze and have absolutely no idea what to do.

This paralysis may seem unhelpful at first - However, it actually gives us a moment ponder and think through our circumstances in optimal ways – if only we have trained and practice enough on How to Handle The Unexpected* .

After sometime when our brain starts to feel and think – then we need to ask few questions to gain clarity and understand our problem from different perspectives*.

With more clarity comes greater insight and understanding which would help you to be in more resourceful* state.

In this articles we have covered - 5 Types of challenges, The 21 common problems we face, the 12 mental and emotional conditioning steps, 75 ways on how to solve how to solve and the 18 questions to ask for gaining clarity and understand the problem fully plus 12 personal issues which are usually the reason for many problems faced by us.

Our challenges are of the following types – that we must deal with and solve – in order for us to live contended life

1.Problems related to our own lacunae, e.g., The ones which are within our control

I.Lack of Right Skills*, Knowledge, Abilities, Habits, Attitudes*, Competencies and Behaviors – these mostly can be learned [but if we don't identify what is stopping us AND learn – then we are likely to remain in a life full of jealousies a, envies and wishful thinking]

II.The problems which keeps spiraling out of our control – because we don't act, inculcate and implement the aforesaid

2.Problems which comes due to What other people do – which impacts us directly

3.The External Factors - Technological Changes, Political Changes, Environmental Changes Situations etc – in these types of situations we need to learn how to bounce-back*

To handle those situations - Which are not in our Area of Control* - we need only to identify what is possible in our current impossible-zone and slowly try to expand our area of influence

List of 21 common problems we have in life – it is a indicative list – please add your own, if it does not have what is uniquely Yours.

1.Managing Our Emotions in challenging moments – so as not to react but respond

2.Handling Toxic and difficult people* - all of us would face them in every aspects of life[including having difficult children, spouses etc]

3.Unfairness of life

4.Our job - Bad colleagues, Arrogant boss, Long hours

5.We – Ourselves => Pushing ourselves*, being disciplined, ditching quick gratification in favor of ling-term growth, cutting corners/taking-shortcuts to sticking with values that gives you all types of problems etc etc

6.Our disappointments – in jobs, in our all-important relationships, from our expectations

7.Expected crises and setbacks – financial, professional, health, career, through our own kid's/parent's/sibling's

8.Handling our fears*, anxieties*, resistance to change* etc

9.Finding Inner Peace and being happy and satisfied

10.Improve Our Career and Job-Situation

11.Eliminate Negativity

12.Finding and Living Our Passion*

13.Increase Self Esteem / Self-Confidence*

14.Facing criticism*, adversity* etc

15.Finding meaning* in what we are doing

16.Making ourselves feel worthy

17.Breaking monotony – making life exciting

18.Balancing between your drams and your responsibilities

19.Handling you shame, guilt*, regrets*

20. Letting Go*

21.What other think* of us

The mental and emotional conditioning needed to face life's challenges

1.Learning to face Reality - So often we turn away from life rather than toward it that We become masters of avoidance

2.Learning Accepting Your Life as It Is - Rather than – fighting with it – although Sometimes this too is needed but no-one can be in this state for long and doesn't get burned out completely

3.Taking life as it comes to us — focusing on actions that are needed to be take on day to day basis

4.Realize that it is okay to feel pain, let yourself feel the feelings of being sad, angry or any other emotion

5.Understand that Your feelings and emotions* are not under your control and can be triggered by other people/situations/circumstances – But you can't stay in them for – you have learn how to handle your emotions*

6.Understand that everyone struggles and face defeats and failures – many times bigger than ours defeats and failures

7.Realize that in life our focus is only on our own challenges – and that makes feel – we are the only one. Remember everyone goes through their own hell – only thing that differs in the degree of catastrophe they face

8.Even though we are capable of doing and accomplishing many big-feats – all of us need to reach out for help, support, guidance from others.

9.There is no shame in asking for help – even going for professional counseling

10.Accept support -Asking for help can be hard, and accepting it even harder

11.Help others - Look for someone to help and happiness will find you

12.Learn to Enjoy - The small things of life as well as pain

75 Strategies to transit through our Struggles

Many of the following [especially the *marked ones] may sound like PREACHING but they NOT – they are just the topic for which there are detailed Do-it-Yourself Tips given in separate article in success unlimited mantra's "from the heart of Subhashis".

1.Take Your Time – unless it is one of those time when speed matters - By being in a hurry, we actually thwart our own success, We make more mistakes, We cut corners and pay for them later – instead – the Slow, disciplined, incremental growth is the kind of approach that leads to lasting change.

2.Practice Identifying blessing in your life - It is easy to count our troubles rather than our blessings. A change in perspective can make all the difference. Recognizing the good and receiving it with gratitude is a recipe for emotional health and well-being.

3.Allow yourself to feel the pain, the sadness, the frustrations, the anguish Fully – then once you get out of the all-is-lost mindset => slowly get your life back on track

4.Suppressing, ignoring, avoiding our feelings not only is most detrimental but it also drains us of the psychological energy that makes life worth living.

5.Accept Success and Failure as Part of Life's Journey

6.The dynamic process of life—trying, succeeding, failing, and trying again—is the only way to develop lasting confidence in ourselves.

7.We learn through experience that we can both succeed and recover from failure. We also learn to be humble and so develop a view of ourselves

8.Nurture Your Loving Relationships*

9.It is easy to neglect what matters the most: our relationships with those we love

10.These relationships don't just happen magically; they grow and are sustained through attentive care and hard work. Mature love—whether in marriage, family relationships, or friendships—is a dynamic, living experience.

11.Learn to MANAGE STRESS* effectively

12.Change your emotional state by changing your physical state AND my taking actions – even if they mean going on a run in the fast

13.Face fear* head on

14.Learn to handle conflicts* - inner as well as with other people and situations

15.Identify Your passions – revisit and make them as per who you want to be today – and then be in the action state

16.Identify your strengths – maximize their use

17.Outsource or minimize OR make your weaknesses your strengths*

18.Empower* yourself to claim your personal power*

19.Learn how to be powerful*

20. Instead of waiting – Do What You can, With What You have, where you are – RIGHT NOW

21.Train yourself to always explore the options and choices and possibilities – there are always more than few alternative

22. Being willing to do something when it needs to be done

23. Surround yourself with Positive Thinkers

24. Don't Give Up*

25. Know when to give-up* - yes there are times we all need to give up self-defeating pursuits

26. Meditate for solutions

27.Learn to Re-frame* your thoughts – by identifying the positives that these challenges are offering you

28. Outsource things of little consequences yet necessary ones

29. Seek help from others

30. Get yourself Mentors and partners

31.Outsource your weaknesses - the things you're not good at

32. Learn how to be persistent* - Make Tenacity your Friend

33. Think BIG*

34. Balance between Working Smarter and Harder

35. Listen and learn from those who made it out from your situation and surivived

36. Don't depend on other people to fix your own problem – take personal responsibility*

37.Reflect and introspect whenever it went wrong

38. Instead of self-pity – go for actions which are massive

Never make decisions* when you are angry and frustrated

39. Don't make decisions when you are giddy with success and happiness or in ecstasy

40. Befriend silence and treasure solitude – learn to enjoy your company

41.Learn to accept yourself and loving yourself unconditionally*

42. Learn to let go*

43. Learn the art of Focus*

44. Learn to bounce back from failures*

45. Take actions those make you Move Forward

46. Practice, Practice, Practice

47.Learn learn learn*

48. Learn to be Committed*

49. Develop your Soft skills including Problem-Solving* Skills and Creativity*

50. Maintain habit of Discipline*

51.First Understand the obstacle well– instead of trying instead of trying to move quickly to a solution

52. Create a plan by working backwards from the end results that you want to have

53. Avoid reinventing the wheel^ -If you have a method that worked for you in a different situation

54. Reinventing the wheel^^ – by looking at it from different approaches

55.After that choose which of the ^ OR ^^ is better

56. Get Your Priorities* in Order

57.Experiment *in New Directions

58. Make the Necessary Sacrifices – learn to let go of instant or quick gratifications to gain meaningful life later

59. Learn from Your Mistakes*

60. Keep Things Simple – learn to simplify*

61.Stick to the basics*

62. Cultivate Calmness*

63. Stop acting like a victim – Don't Look for Sympathy

64. Intentionally seek out obstacles and challenges in every aspects of life to learn

65. Stop comparing-yourself* with others

66. Focus on what you can change

67.Learn to face adversity*

68. Go for regular Exercise, Get out in nature

69. Distance Yourself From The Drama of self-pity

70. Identify and work on being resourceful to Seek Out needed Resources

71.Find meaning – in whatever is happening to you right now by asking yourself difficult questions

72.Constantly Reevaluate and re-adjust your goals

73.Learn to procrastination deliberately*

74.Learn what to do if willpower does not work*

75.Celebrate – whenever you feel you have overcome something – create your own symbolic rituals of telling your sub-conscious that you are a winner

12 personal issue that becomes our biggest stumbling blocks – all of them are self-explanatory

1.Lack of patience

2.Lack of discipline

3.Lack of knowledge

4.Lack of inspiration

5.Lack of desire and passion

6.Lack of skill

7.Fear of change

8.Feeling unworthy

9.Perfectionism*

10.Complacency

11.Too many excuses and complaining

12.Fear of taking action/making decision*/taking ownership* and responsibility*

18 Questions to Help You Overcome Your Obstacles

1.Explore the consequences of having this problem – ask yourself

2.What would happen if you ignored it

3.When could it become a bigger problem

4.What would the cascading effect – if this problem is not handled right now

5.How does this affect you, others

6.Would resolving this may cause other problems – which ones

7.What aspects of this problem is within your control

8.What aspects of this problem is beyond your control

9.What are your assumptions about this

10.What are the perspectives you haven't considered

11.Who has successfully overcome this problem - What can you learn from this person to help you work through your problem

12.What could you do differently

13.Who could assist you along this journey toward solving this problem

14.Where haven't you over-looked in this situation

15.What is your minimum criteria for success

16.How can I gain control over these circumstances - If I cannot gain control, then how can I influence these circumstances

17.Where must I look for more information to understand the problem better

18.How could I view this situation differently that would be more helpful and provide me with better options