Stand up for yourself Make your life count

In this article you will learn the following

-10 Examples in which way we can stand-up for ourselves and what is important to us

-15 questions to identify the most powerful-meaningful-worthy causes you can dedicate your life for an extraordinarily blissful, wonderful and contended life

-90 ways on how to standup for your values and causes that matters to you and for other-people - through these action-steps and guidance for creating the right mindset

-39 action-tips on being the correct ways to be ASSERTIVE to standing up for your rights AND what is right

-Your 14 basic-fundamental-rights - you must stand-up for

Standup for meaningful-powerful-worthwhile causes to Make your life count

How to stand up for yourself when you need to - to uphold your values and for what matters to you most.

Standing-up for ourselves is something which is as essential as breathing.

10 Examples on how many ways we can standup - kindly add all that falls under standing up for yourself - for others - for society, for your community, for your country and for humanity

• 1.We can say No to - any unethical, illegal, dangerous, harmful pressures and demands - of any one
• 2.We can claim our own basic rights - irrespective of the country or society that we live-in - or the religion that we have chosen to follow
• 3.We can voice our thoughts, opinions, views and emotions - in manners which is respectful to others
• 4.We can put efforts in being understood by those around us - by clarifying or clearing their doubts and misunderstanding
• 5.We can voice our disagreements and express our dissents to wrongful acts
• 6.We can standup for others - when we find - someone or any group taking advantage of them or harassing them
• 7.We can protest against - any types of unlawful-illegal-criminal acts
• 8.We can join a social movement to stop or prevent - social-evils and practices
• 9.We can support others who are running campaigns which is good for masses
• 10. We can demand justice for someone who has been wronged by others

If you understand-know-accept - that you should stand-up for your basic rights, your dignity, your values and standards and for social-cause and other people - you may ask why you should stand for others.

Simply put - if no one stands-up for others - then who will stand up for us - when we need support.

History has shown uncountable-times - that when a significant mass stands-up - even the most tyrannical dictators have to flee - although this large movement only takes place through very-very small efforts of few people and then gathers the momentum - IF THE CAUSE IS MOST RIGHT.

Our life can become very meaningful, very powerful and very satisfying when we stand up for causes and values that are larger than life and are inspiring for us.

Standing-up for ourselves, our values and worthwhile-causes which matters - empowers ourselves as well as others.

When you stand up for causes - which creates positive and transformative impact on large masses - you transcend into the league of greatest of leaders, game-changers and transformers.

Standing up for yourself - means doing the right thing - even when other people disagree, resist or oppose you.

Some people - although - have no difficulty in supporting others - but they find standing up for themselves very difficult and lack of willingness.

15 questions to identify the most powerful-meaningful-worthy causes you can dedicate your life for an extraordinarily blissful, wonderful and contended life

• 1.Do you actually stand up for yourself - whenever needed and when others are encroaching on what is yours
• 2.Do you stand-up for others - when they need it most - or - ignore-avoid-walk away
• 3.Do you pursue values, goals and pursuits - which makes you feel excited, energized and enthusiastic
• 4.What your life looks like and feel to you - right now - identify as many parameters
• 5.What are you missing in life - identify as many as you can list
• 6.What voids exists in your life - identify as many
• 7.What are those things that you want-desperately - but not getting - identify as many parameters
• 8.What causes would make you proud of yourself - if you start standing-up for them - identify as many
• 9.Which situations, actions and thinking -makes you feel valued and worthy - identify as many
• 10. Are you spending your time wisely to make your life worth-while
• 11. What qualities-impacts-transformations-changes - do you want to be remembered for - identify as many
• 12. Are you a pushover
• 13. Do you need reinforcement of extra boost in your self-esteem, self-worth, self-pride, self-confidence
• 14. Are you pursuing and chasing your dreams or living as per the standards and expectations of others and societal-assumptions
• 15. What are those things if happen in your life - can make you feel marvelously great about your life - identify as many
• 16. Are there situations, people and contexts in which you find yourself unable to get your point across - identify as many specific ones

90 ways on how to standup for your values and causes that matters to you and for other-people - through these action-steps and guidance for creating the right mindset

• 1.You need to be very discerning while choosing what you should stand for - select your causes, battles, place, time and opportunities
• 2.Understand the following 8 basics for additional clarifications - to identify what is best for you and your loved ones
• I.You don't have to take care of every problem - every time - for everyone
• II.You are not obliged to help everyone - every time - especially at the cost of yourself and your loved ones
• III.Helping others is alright - as the ideal-world has to be interdependent - but it has to be meaningfully-positive and the people who are seeking your help should appreciate your contributions appropriately
• IV.Understand there is no obligation for you to respond to requests-demands made by others - immediately - you can also choose not to respond at all
• V.You also need to selectively choose opportunities - after you have explored and identified all the opportunities that exists - that means letting-go the ones with lesser importance and short-term gains - in favor of those with the long-term sustainable benefits and advantages
• VI.If there are multiple prospective-opportunities you have to choose from - you need to select the ones which have the most powerful impact for the longest-term - for all the stakeholders
• VII.You also have to identify what is negotiable and what is absolutely not negotiable for yourself - when it comes to standards, benchmarks, values and behaviors of others
• VIII.You should be absolutely clear in what all you would compromise with and what you will fight for till you can
• 3.39 action-tips on being the correct ways to be ASSERTIVE to standing up for your rights AND what is right
• I.Being assertive and standing up for your rights and values and what is right - doesn't mean that you need to have fight with every person and on every issues - for this the law of most-imperative outcomes-desired applies
• II.You need to set healthy and empowering emotional-boundaries - these boundaries also need to be practiced with ever one around you on consistence basis - to train them how to reciprocate your respect, your care and your efforts appropriately
• III.When you are standing up for your fundamental rights - you don't have to apologize or feel guilty, ashamed and embarrassed
• IV.You also need to work on refining and enhancing your social -emotional-intelligence
• V.Create empathy to understand and see - from different perspectives is one of the greatest qualities for growth, success, happiness and quality-relationships
• VI.But you also need to stop taking sh*t and learn to claim what is just for you and your loved ones
• VII.Make a note of all the ways you might be giving too much [without getting reciprocated accordingly] – in your relationships, at work, home etc. If you're not sure - try identifying those relationships that make you feel angry or resentful.
• VIII.Identify all your unmet needs which causes you regular frustrations - in your important relationships and situations and where you feel suppressed
• IX.Relook and review your important relationships - to identify if you are stuck in unhealthy relationships – if you are - you need to find a healthier balance.
• X.The people who love and care for you - want to see you grow
• XI.You also need to identify and get those people out of your life - who are not your well-wishers or find ways to avoid them
• XII.Ask whether your priorities are based on other people's needs - you need to please understand that your desires and needs are just as important as everyone else's
• XIII.Define what assertiveness means to you - in context of your real life
• XIV.Your strategy, tactics and action-plans to stand up for yourself - has to be customized as per your unmet needs and all other parameters as you have identified through above questions
• XV.You may feel awkward to assert yourself in certain situations and with certain types of people [this will be more applicable for you - if you have had a history of trauma]
• XVI.If you had a traumatic past - you need to work on standing up for yourself more diligently to avoid future ill-treatment at work and in your other relationships
• XVII.Taking a stand can be as simple as saying NO when you are tired - or ignoring those who are disrespectful to you and disregards your views
• XVIII.Standing up for yourself doesn't mean that you have to stop being kind to other people - there's definite difference between being assertive and being a jerk
• XIX.Understand that it is okay to be little selfish - time to time - especially when you are dealing with people who are not your most loved ones - by putting your needs first
• XX.Start small and build your confidence up slowly – assertiveness is a skill which needs lots of practice -start with the smaller things where you don't feel too overwhelmed and intimidating.
• XXI.Learn to express your feelings using "I" statements - highlight the specific incident that has made you feel bad - like - "I" don't appreciate it when you talk in that tone with me" or "I" have deadlines that is making me overwhelmed therefore "I" am unable to do this right now" or "I" have a feeling that you seem to be unhappy with something at the moment - can you please let me know what's wrong" or "I" am not in the right emotional-state to talk about it - right now"
• XXII.Avoid getting into personalities and generalized-blaming
• XXIII.When confronting someone - please don't pull-out all the past wrongs that person has done
• XXIV.Speak with deliberate intention - let those around you know what you need - learn to voice your dissatisfactions - in the appropriate time and space
• XXV.Respond only after thinking-through and through delayed-sleeping-over to avoid reacting recklessly - if possible in that situation try moving away to get your mental-state to a calmer one - even if it means looking stupid, weak and coward
• XXVI.If it is physically dangerous for you and your loved ones - and you feel that you need to run-away - run by all means - safety and well-being of yourself and your loved ones trumps everything else
• XXVII.Make "N0" your favorite word - Say yes only to what uplifts you and good for growth
• XXVIII.Learn to make tough-choices which would be beneficial to you in long-run and take actions
• XXIX.Avoid giving and making excuses
• XXX.Accept your mistakes and correct them
• XXXI.Stop blaming others and situations and for your problems in life - start taking your personal responsibility for your actions/inactions - decisions/indecisions and their respective consequences
• XXXII.Practice your words ahead of time to make it your subconscious-speech - especially if you are going to confront someone - you are scared of confronting
• XXXIII.Remember that you deserve as much respect as anyone else
• XXXIV.Learn to use your body language powerfully - although with correct levels of sub-conscious self-confidence it will happen automatically - till then practice and consciously force yourself to walk with head held high
• XXXV.Once you know, understand, and respect your own needs - and start ensuring that you get them everywhere - right people will start respecting you better
• XXXVI.Feel free to say NO - when you know something is not right for you - never mind if some people take offense
• XXXVII.Don't commit to anything under pressure
• XXXVIII.Neither make promises - when you feel extremely happy with something what someone has done
• XXXIX.When it comes to being asked questions that are too personal or intrusive - respond with smile and say - "I" am sure that this "I" don't need to respond
• XL.Remind others who are invading your rights gently that you have those rights - by highlighting it specifically
• XLI.When you are not being respected - demand to be treated with respect - using the "I" statements
• 4.Create a network of dependable people whom you can call upon - when you need help
• 5.Learning to stand up for yourself won't happen overnight - it takes time to grow comfortable with being assertive - when you are in the learning stage - just push through your will-power and resolve however hard and difficult it may feel to you
• 6.Walk-away from situations and people where you feel suffocated and pressurized
• 7.Stand up for someone's else's rights today –speak-up when another's rights are at risk or under attack - but just don't jump into something especially if the physical and other safety and security of yours and your loved one's might get compromised
• 8.Prepare yourself mentally - to intervene in difficult situations rather than being a bystander - through practicing
• 9.At work and in social situations - make sure that you stand up for everyone on your team when appropriate - not just for the team members you like
• 10. When you take the ownership for your juniors - at times when they have slipped-up or performed poorly - ensure that they understand what they did wrong - and get their commitment - that they won't repeat this mistake again
• 11. Analyze the situation and after assessing the risks - decide on action-plan to mitigate the losses
• 12. Learn to respond diplomatically to unwarranted criticism.
• 13. Challenge your own prejudices and biases
• 14. Try to find ways in which saying what you want in a way that does not hurt other people.
• 15. It is not necessary to justify what you want all the time - explanation can sometimes help - but only to persuade - not to apologize while feeling guilty and over obliged
• 16. You also need to start living your values and challenging what is not right by learning to get courage on command
• 17. Reporting anything you feel is unsafe or when something feels wrong - trusting your emotions and intuition is good when it is about feeling respected, valued, and safe.
• 18. Before you confront anyone - know what it is that you want from the situation - get clear on your reasons why the behavior needs to change - do you want them to stop speaking to you disrespectfully - do you want them to stop being in relationship with you
• 19. Sometimes - the most courageous thing you can do in a relationship is to stop trying to convince, change or fix the situation - as long as it's not avoidance and escaping
• 20. Standing up for yourself means being your authentic self
• 21. Learn to face those who want to override-overpower-bulldoze you - by taking small-small yet powerful assertive steps.
• 22. Understand that there will always be people whose personalities are set in attacking mode - at least with you - stop giving them importance and attention or allow them to browbeat you either
• 23. Clarify first - figure out what's really bothering you without attacking or hitting back - should the urge happens
• 24. Stop letting time-stealers and time-wasters steal your productive-time away from you
• 25. Understand that you don't need anyone's validation-approval and that no one can invalidate you
• 26. Shift your thinking into practicing
• 27. Make friends as opposed to networking.
• 28. Become an expert by learning as much as you can and deeply seeking out the things you are curious about.
• 29. Volunteer to help out those less fortunate.
• 30. Stop treating life as a competition and do things which uplifts and empowers you
• 31. Accomplish one big task - every day
• 32. Do one thing that you love - every day
• 33. Rest and relax effectively
• 34. Nurture your soul by investing time each day to feed your soul by embracing gratitude, laughter, hope, and faith.
• 35. Learn to express yourself in multiple ways creatively - music, planting flowers, art, fixing cars, writing or telling stories, etc.
• 36. Start to appreciate beauty all around you
• 37. Laugh - play - have fun
• 38. Learn something new
• 39. Simplify your life - by doing what fulfills you and gives your life a worthy meaning - this reduces stress and improves your productivity as well
• 40. Spend money on people and experiences rather than on accumulation of materialistic things
• 41. Do something that both honors your beliefs and passions, while giving something back to the world.
• 42. Identify your strengths - then -look for ways to use your strengths in a way that will serve and benefit others as well as you
• 43. Reframe and identify reasons to feel proud about what you do
• 44. Cultivate relationships with those who value who you are
• 45. Make your life count find a balance between seeking happiness and living a meaningful life - as meaningful activities usually involve making sacrifices
• 46. Make it about others and not yourself - make it about giving and not getting - make it about serving rather than self-seeking
• 47. Your 14 basic-fundamental-rights - you must stand-up for
• I.Feeling and expressing what you feel
• II.Claiming your basic rights
• III.To be treated with respect and dignity
• IV.Being able to say NO without feeling guilty
• V.Being heard by others who listen to what you have to say
• VI.Having your very own individual needs and wants
• VII.Having your very own opinions which are different and unique
• VIII.Being yourself
• IX.Asking for favors and help from others - although others have right to refuse or say no to your requests
• X.Asking others to do things
• XI.Asking people for clarifications
• XII.Trying new things and make mistakes
• XIII.Standing up for your values
• XIV.Standing up for the rights of other people
• XV.Asking to know what is expected of you

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