<p>It seems all of us wants to <b data-redactor-tag="b">settled down in life</b>– at least most of us or - many of us– RIGHT?</p><p>This <b data-redactor-tag="b">mindset is the root-cause most of our</b> woes, miseries, anguishes, distresses, despairs etc. etc. in our lives – and creates many negativities.</p><p>Because <b data-redactor-tag="b">it works on the exact opposite principal of the Laws of nature</b>. </p><p>The <b data-redactor-tag="b">Nature is about continuous evolution</b> – the fundamental of which is <b data-redactor-tag="b">constant-change</b>.</p><p>Although many of the unsettling experiences/incidences are pleasant - <b data-redactor-tag="b">being comfortable-with and excited-about with the life's unsettling hands</b> – is the key to <b data-redactor-tag="b">happier and less stressful life</b>.</p><p>In this <b data-redactor-tag="b">VUCA environment and disruptive-world</b> – now being unsettled is the <b data-redactor-tag="b">Settled</b>.</p><p>Most <b data-redactor-tag="b">of our popular folklores and the movies along with the fictional love-stories</b> have sold us this crazy notion of living happily ever after.</p><p>All of us <b data-redactor-tag="b">have bought this illusion hook, line and sinker.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">We are</b> conditioned to expect and keep looking for it throughout our life – <b data-redactor-tag="b">and like mirage it normally doesn't happen. </b></p><p>If you can examine this objectively - This <b data-redactor-tag="b">happily-ever-after-life</b> is as true – as all the women and the men <b data-redactor-tag="b">having exactly same nature, thought-process, expectations, needs</b> etc. etc.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Let us do a small test – Ask yourself which of the followings actually makes you fully at peace</b> [please add whatever I might have missed]</p> <ul><li>1.Coming into puberty</li> <li>2.Being a teen - an adolescent [ this goes for both the teenagers as well as their parents]</li> <li>3.Shifting to a new town</li> <li>4.Taking a new job/Losing your job</li> <li>5.Finding your heartthrob – yes it can change your life unlike anything big-time</li> <li>6.Getting married</li> <li>7.Having kids for the first time or any number of times</li> <li>8.When kids are getting married</li> <li>9.When kids have their own children</li> <li>10.Financial losses</li> <li>11.Onset of old age symptoms </li> <li>12.Loss of loved ones, Breakups with friend spouse, partner etc.</li> <li>13.Getting promotion/a big raise</li> <li>14.Getting a fortune being gifted o you/winning a lottery [yes-yes I know this is a very rare event and happens only to rarer people – it definitely won't happen to you]</li> <li>15.Becoming famous</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Even though some of them are really very-very happy events</b> – it would still take us through <b data-redactor-tag="b">roller-coaster of emotional bell-curve</b>.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Settling-down, living-happily-ever-after is a mental and emotional-fantasy</b>.</p><p>When <b data-redactor-tag="b">we are disillusioned with the expectation of this (UN)Reality</b> - instead of <b data-redactor-tag="b">welcoming change* we </b>resist it, we fight it, we delay it till it can longer be postponed.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">9 benefits of being unsettled</b></p><p>[throughout this article as in all my blogs in Success Unlimited Mantra – all the *marked ones mean there is a separate and detailed Do-it-Yourself blog on that topic] </p> <ul><li>1.If you are expecting a big trouble – and are prepared for the worst AND what happens is lessor – your stress*-levels would be withing positive*-levels</li> <li>2.Because you pro-actively seek change* - change will never make you upset</li> <li>3.As you always try to find better ways of handling newer and bigger-problems* – you may discover some-cutting edge solutions* those can even make business*-sense</li> <li>4.You will constantly evolve to be a more capable and competent person</li> <li>5.You will be able to spot the trends* sooner than others – and – if you can develop entrepreneurial*-mindset* - you would be able to create disruptions*</li> <li>6.You will become a Game-changer* </li> <li>7.You can live an extra-ordinary* life</li> <li>8.You ae not scared to take Risk*</li> <li>9.You are Yourself* or you can be You best self</li></ul> <p><b data-redactor-tag="b">38 ways on How to create the mindset of making most out of being Unsettled </b></p> <ul><li>1.Expect the unexpected* </li> <li>2.Stop-expecting The Expected</li> <li>3.Learn how to be prepared for the Unexpected – by exploring all that can go wrong – and creating solutions/strategies to handle them</li> <li>4.Learn to learn the rules first and then break all the conventional-rules and thinking to discover newer-better-more effective ways</li> <li>5.Turn your life upside-down* </li> <li>6.Develop better habits of mind*</li> <li>7.Create a regimen of Disciplined* life</li> <li>8.Experiment with new*</li> <li>9.Explore the uncertain – by taking small size risks*</li> <li>10.Treat every upset* as the opportunity* to change</li> <li>11.Become a master in exploring options, possibilities and solutions – those which are simple</li> <li>12.Simplify* your life </li> <li>13.Stick to the basics* - the fundamentals which leads to sustainable* solutions*</li> <li>14.Identify how you want your life to be – then discover your most inspiring Why's to live like this</li> <li>15.Prioritize* and choose only the most important ones</li> <li>16.Never settle for mediocrity – aim for excellence*</li> <li>17.Ditch perfection* over the larger outcome of accomplishing your goals*</li> <li>18.Focus on creating a masterpiece* of your life</li> <li>19.Build, Develop and Boost your resilience*</li> <li>20. Let go of fear* of failures* </li> <li>21.Learning to Let Go*</li> <li>22. Learn to relax*</li> <li>23. Learn to be comfortable with Discomfort*</li> <li>24. Live an interesting life – consciously break your Routines</li> <li>25. STABILITY OR UNPREDICTABILITY - CHOOSE BOTH and balance between the two</li> <li>26. Discover the joy of becoming unsettled</li> <li>27.Get connect with your own heart and Soul</li> <li>28. Start living your life based on your passions and as per other people's wishes</li> <li>29. Choose people who are energetic, enthusiastic and have zeal to change</li> <li>30. Don't try to control everything – especially the results – focus on your efforts, goals and improvising*</li> <li>31.Be comfortable with the idea – that you would be wrong many times</li> <li>32. Take ownership* -stop blaming*</li> <li>33. Negotiate instead of complaining*</li> <li>34. Learn to listen to criticism* - objectively detaching yourself</li> <li>35. Stop impressing others – stat expressing yourself*</li> <li>36. Discovering the Roots of Your Restlessness - find fulfillment from the inside out</li> <li>37.Write down your concerns and anxieties* – find ways to address them</li> <li>38. Don't overwhelm yourself with too much - Take one step at a time</li></ul>