<p>In this article - you will learn the following</p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">Disastrous Impact of taking things and people - Personally</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">19 reasons why people take things personally - basic human psychology</b></p><p>-<b data-redactor-tag="b">70+ steps on how to not to take personally the comments, the statements, the remarks, the expressions and all imagined-wrongs done by others</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">- 22 simple exercises to stop taking things personally</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Why we should never take things personally - how to stop taking things and people's behaviors-words-actions - personally.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Our life gets impacted disastrously when we take things and people personally - a little too much and little too often.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Learning - how not to take things [comments, statements, remarks, expressions and all imagined-wrongs]- personally - is a skill that can help each one of us avoid many </b>hurts, anger, disappointments and hear-breaks, misunderstandings, quarrels, negativities, conflicts, disputes, stress etc. </p><p>If you can look at<b data-redactor-tag="b"> the few incidents where you felt bad - in complete dissociate state and objectively - you would realize that many of these were imagined, unnecessary, perceived and self-manufactured by your false assumptions.</b></p><p>Many of us - <b data-redactor-tag="b">get offended by what other people said and keep reflecting on why they said that.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Some people also keep killing themselves internally - through feeling extreme sense of guilt, shame, embarrassment - just because they assume that they</b> have wronged someone - simply based on perceptions.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Most of the time - what people say and do - are not even remotely connected with us.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Still we tend to assume personal responsibility </b>for occurrences that we have little to no control-over OR which have no connection with us.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">We magnify our roles in the events happening around us and - believe all these are because of us.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">We internalize problems, words and actions of ours as well as others - as something we catastrophic.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">As human beings - all of us have our own insecurities, sensitivities and EGOs.</b></p><p>No one <b data-redactor-tag="b">can avoid making wrong assumptions and taking things personally</b> every once in a while.</p><p>But i<b data-redactor-tag="b">f you happen to find that - you are getting hurt, irritated, angry etc. - quite frequently - then you must learn how to manage your emotional well-being seriously OR take professional help - to stop taking everything personally.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Because it will eventually lead to anxiety-disorders and serious psychological complications - sooner than later - besides creating hell for people who care for you.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Taking things personally only leads to a negative outlook - which can never contribute to a happier life.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Sometimes - people do make insensitive comments, nasty judgments and nasty put-downs.</b></p><p>We need <b data-redactor-tag="b">to learn how handle these people</b> - <b data-redactor-tag="b">then and there - ASSERTIVELY and effectively.</b></p><p>But when - <b data-redactor-tag="b">you keep reflecting - for hours/days/weeks - after someone said something - then you need to seek professional-help for correcting this issues immediately - especially if you have other emotional problems as well.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">Emotionally insecure people with very low self-esteem and people with psychological issues - may even take jokes and innocent-fun of general nature - personally - creating pain for themselves as well as for their loved-ones.</b></p><p>The basic fact is - <b data-redactor-tag="b">you can get hurt - for no reason - if you perceive and assume anything negative - without verifying.</b></p><p>Many of us <b data-redactor-tag="b">react by overanalyzing and in the process become depressed</b> and anxious over routine interpersonal interactions.</p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">You may come across few - who go bonkers by an innocent conversation because they interpreted it completely in crazy manner - driving others crazy.</b></p><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">19 reasons why people take things personally - basic human psychology </b></p><ul><li>1.Most of us feel good to be accepted, respected and liked by our family, friends as well as professionally and socially</li> <li>2.We have expectations of what others should do as well as what they should not do</li> <li>3.BUT - because everyone has their own scale of parameters and measurements - No one will do as we want them to - instead they will do as they want</li> <li>4.None of us can control how anybody behaves, acts and thinks - you may also realize that many times you can't control how you behave, act and say under some situations and with some people</li> <li>5.Comments made by others - could be the projection of their own hatred, their own lacunas, their own dislikes, their own weaknesses - but when we take these personally we end up creating misery for ourselves</li> <li>6.Many times these people are venting their own pent-up feelings and that is not about you at all</li> <li>7.When people make nasty and insensitive comments - at times it is because they are jealous of you - because of their own personal-issues - and sometimes they do this to make you feel bad deliberately</li> <li>8.People also project those qualities those they dislike in themselves - to others </li> <li>9.Emotionally insecure people who usually have low self-esteem - insult, belittle and suppress others - to feel good themselves</li> <li>10. Some people are nasty and bitter because of their own nature and conditioning - they will behave like that - irrespective of how good you are with them</li> <li>11. None of us can change anyone - therefore never try to fix anyone - It is for them to work on themselves to sort-out their issues - in fact if you try to make them change - soon you too will become like them</li> <li>12. Sometimes when they are raging because they had a lousy day - you only happen to be the one on whom they are venting</li> <li>13. Many times - you too could have triggered their negative behavior </li> <li>14. When we take things personally - it also means that - DEEP DOWN We AGREE WITH THE criticism and because we are unable to face the truth about us - we feel hurt and angry</li> <li>15. You also need to realize that some people say stupid things, inappropriate things and insensitive things - because they just don't understand</li> <li>16. Also there are people who won't like you and some may even hate you - openly as well as silently</li> <li>17. Everyone has their own opinions based on their belief system and there's nothing wrong with that - and very-rare few may have belief system where they might think-act-behave-react like you - under some circumstances</li> <li>18. If you're trying to change other people -that means you don't really like them as they really are and are unable to accept them like they are </li> <li>19. Understand that there is no perfect individual and there is no perfect relationship</li></ul><p><b data-redactor-tag="b">70+ steps on how to not to take personally the comments, the statements, the remarks, the expressions and all imagined-wrongs done by others </b></p><ul><li>1.Instill and reinforce confidence in yourself by doing your best - giving your 100% and ensuring excellence in everything that you do and deliver </li> <li>2.When we have high self-pride, self-respect, self-love - what others do seldom sticks to us</li> <li>3.We also have to develop the right type of thick-skin and learn the art of ignoring people and things - which are harmful to us</li> <li>4.Identify what type of life will make you feel empowered - and then focus only on living a meaningful and fulfilling life</li> <li>5.Do things that uplifts you and make you feel great</li> <li>6.Be an action-person - and busy yourself with positive, meaningful and constructive activities</li> <li>7.Ask yourself why someone's comments, statements or behaviors make you feel bad or make you uncomfortable</li> <li>8.Ask yourself - who are the people whose comments and actions hurt you most - ask yourself why you take these personally</li> <li>9.People with a low level of confidence are more likely to bristle at any negative comment thrown at them because they are quick to believe that it is true.</li> <li>10. Ask yourself - Do you take offense for same thing from everyone or it is different for different people </li> <li>11. Ask yourself -Do you take offense from most of the people even your closest ones</li> <li>12. Please understand - if someone insults you or put you down - you must deal with it immediately in the most effective and assertive manner- decently, respectfully and maintaining your personal-dignity</li> <li>13. If there are people in your life who insult, demean, belittle you regularly - sit down and identify what you can do differently to handle them better - so that you don't feel depressed</li> <li>14. None of us can control what others say or do to us - BUT - all of us have choices to create responses which are powerfully positive, empowering and which helps us grow</li> <li>15. If we respond instead of reacting - our emotional intelligence would also become stronger</li> <li>16. Ask yourself - Why are you reacting and losing your cool - are you too quick to judge or assume - ask few WHYs to get to the root of the issue till you discover what resonates with you </li> <li>17. Challenge and verify that your hurt or whatever you took personally - really needs you to take action OR just plain ignore and forget</li> <li>18. In many cases when you challenge your assumptions - you may find that your assumption was biased</li> <li>19. Delay reacting and learn to not give in to your emotions </li> <li>20. Learn to create a 60 second gap between your strong impulsive urge to react AND taking action </li> <li>21. Practice feeling the emotions especially the strong negative ones - just be aware of them - then question your perceptions - if after deliberations you find you need to take action go ahead</li> <li>22. Never concern yourself about what others think of you</li> <li>23. Understand that criticism - is part of life - we criticize others and others criticize us</li> <li>24. We have to learn and become better by developing our own healthy way of dealing with criticism</li> <li>25. Understand that barring YOUR Blood-enemies - no one in the world is out to attack you in day to day life</li> <li>26. Get rid of all the toxic people - from your life - it is hard BUT living with them is even more torturous</li> <li>27. Respond to provocations - only when you are ready</li> <li>28. Accept and become comfortable with your true self</li> <li>29. Live your life being yourself - then all the people who accept you - as you are - are those who truly care for you</li> <li>30. Practice seeing the world from different lenses - rather through your EGO and self-image - to Empathize with the other people</li> <li>31. Become Aware of What You Can & Cannot Control</li> <li>32. Want to change or fix someone you love - STOP - no one can do this </li> <li>33. Know when situations are beyond your control - just do nothing at those moments</li> <li>34. Learn to train yourself to remain disconnected-emotionally and objectively separate yourself from the situation and other people's behaviors </li> <li>35. Know where to draw the line - it is tricky, complex and confusing and needs lots of practice especially if you are of submissive type - but once you work on it - you will be liberated</li> <li>36. Understand that most the People are Focused on Themselves most of the time - each one of them have their own insecurities and issues which is rattling them</li> <li>37. Stop trying to satisfy and please everyone</li> <li>38. Don't bother about getting validations from others - you are the only person whose opinion matters</li> <li>39. Limit and avoid your interactions with toxic people</li> <li>40. Know your triggers - identify who pushes your triggers buttons to make you lose your cool - work out strategies to deal with these people</li> <li>41. Know your pain-spots - they are those things for which you are highly sensitive - where just the mention of the subject - makes you upset </li> <li>42. Understand that - when we overreact - it usually because of old unhealed wounds - YOU need to make these less sensitive through internal dialogue and creating and reinforcing your resolve of not letting your past spoil your present and future life</li> <li>43. If the same person has taken you for a ride more than twice - then it time to set your house in order by not letting them take advantage of you - anymore</li> <li>44. Nurture and Focus on all the positive relationships - those which makes you feel blissful and blessed - and who do matter most in your life.</li> <li>45. Stop wasting your precious energy, time and efforts to fix toxic people and to make bad relationships better - let them go - it is not your job to make everyone nicer and wiser - stop fussing over jerks</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">46. </b>When something distracts and upsets you - ask yourself should I be focusing on this - and whether it is worth - because if you are empathic and sensitive - <b data-redactor-tag="b">in a seemingly insensitive world you can the feelings of getting hurt almost all the time</b></li> <li>47. Stop suffering - just because you don't have better coping strategies right now - but you need to start learning NOW so as to make you future wonderful</li> <li>48. Face this fact that - no body is concerned about you - They aren't even thinking of you</li> <li>49. Create and set clear standards based on values AND follow them</li> <li>50. Hold and make yourself accountable - for continuing improvement and learning</li> <li>51. Face your fears - slowly put yourself in the arenas that scares you - to keep growing</li> <li>52. Do what you makes you uncomfortable - with more and more frequency</li> <li>53. Always clarify by asking questions to others - to understand their perspective</li> <li>54. If something makes you feel bad - ask yourself why it is making you so disturbed and mad - Why you think YOU are BEING TREATED UNFAIRLY and unjustly</li> <li>55. If somebody tries to exclude you from a group - find other people and groups where you are accepted </li> <li>56. Find people where mutual respect exists</li> <li><b data-redactor-tag="b">57. </b><b data-redactor-tag="b">22 simple exercises to stop taking things personally</b></li> <li>I.Ensure that you follow your values </li> <li>II.Don't say or do something that violates our values and creates unwarranted criticism from others</li> <li>III.Ignore and stay away from evil people</li> <li>IV.Respect other people - Make sure you aren't a hater</li> <li>V.Remember that even the kindest people can be selfish at times - Everyone has their triggers - and when they are pressed intentionally or unintentionally - they may behave irrationally</li> <li>VI.Understand that no one can control or change anybody else's reactions.</li> <li>VII.It's okay to make mistakes - and if that mistake affect others - then we need to be concerned about it - by apologizing and making it up</li> <li>VIII.Don't go too hard on yourself worrying about what other people think - after you have apologized and corrected your mistake</li> <li>IX.Stop generalizing a mistake as a flaw in your character</li> <li>X.Work on creating sustainable self-pride - A healthy sense of pride is a powerful defense against unjust criticism and taking things personally.</li> <li>XI.Learn and practice assertiveness - all the time and with everyone</li> <li>XII.Pay attention to your wants, needs and rights - claim your basic rights all the time</li> <li>XIII.Prioritize self-care more than taking care of others</li> <li>XIV.Stop spending time with the wrong people - especially those who influence you negatively</li> <li>XV.Stop judging others</li> <li>XVI.Stop jumping to Conclusions</li> <li>XVII.Be yourself </li> <li>XVIII.Make Mistakes when you stretch yourself while working towards your goals</li> <li>XIX.Set healthy personal boundaries and enforce them</li> <li>XX.Be nice and kind to everyone - but - don't expect them to fall at your feet and feel obligated to you for life - because you are nice to them</li> <li>XXI.When something upsets you or makes you feel uncomfortable - take a different view or seek someone else's perspective to clarify whether the situation call for the reaction you had or did you lost your cool unnecessarily</li> <li>XXII.Identify what is negotiable for you and then learning how to hold your space and keep your power</li></ul><div><br></div><p> <a href="https://successunlimited-mantra.com/index.php/blog/why-we-should-never-take-things-personally-how-to-stop#howtostoptakingthingspersonally,%20#whywetakewhatotherpeoplesaypersonally,%20#stoptakingpeopleseriously,%20#don'ttakelifetooseriously,%20#negativeimpactwhenwetakethingspersonally,%20#howtoavoidunnecessaryhurts,%20#whywegetoffendedeasily,%20#whywekeeprefle" target="_blank">#howtostoptakingthingspersonally, #whywetakewhatotherpeoplesaypersonally, #stoptakingpeopleseriously, #don'ttakelifetooseriously, #negativeimpactwhenwetakethingspersonally, #howtoavoidunnecessaryhurts, #whywegetoffendedeasily, #whywekeepreflecting, #stopassumingresponsibilitiesforothers, #takingthingspersonallycreatesnegativity, #wereactbecauseweoveranalyze, #basichumanpsychology, #giveyour100%, #dothingsthatupliftsyou, #developthickskin, #doyourbest, #focusonmeaningfulandfulfillinglife, #instillconfidencetogainpower, #learntohandlecriticism, #avoidwhatyoucan'tcontrol, #knowwhatiswithinandwhatisnotincontrol, #livebeingyourself, #stoptryingtopleaseothers, #knowyoutriggersand, #avoidtoxixandevilpeople, #knowwhyandwhenyouoverreact, #stoptryingtobelievethatworldisfair, #stopgeneralizingoneproblems, #beassertive</a></p><p> <br></p>